I've been told by a few of my family members, and even an ex boyfriend that I have a fear of itimacy? I feel that I might because I can definetly see what theyre seeing..Im just wondering what might have caused it. What exactly is the definition of it?
I was told that it could be directly linked to my father and grandmother rejecting me..is this true?
2006-12-03 18:05:59 · 8 answers · asked by Tiffany 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't know your personal history and will not pry. Fear of intimacy has basis in the 'minds eye', meaning that if you have had a communication problem in the past or have been abused and there is a massive blockage, then yes- that is fear of trusting another soul but an uncomfortableness within. I'm sorry to hear that your own father and grandmother 'rejected' you- I would assume there is something there that needs discussion that no one has spoken to you about. If that is the case, I urge you to sit down with a relative who you can confide in and ask- I don't know how old you are, but there is nothing wrong with asking. You have the right to know if someone is blocking your projection to live a happier life and be put at ease. I wish you all the best in your decision. I gave you a thumbs up as a hug- may you have a bright week ahead of you. ♦
2006-12-03 18:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful about just assuming some non-professional's opinion about what you may "have" is correct. Much of the time people who are family friends and friends have no idea what they're talking about.
Also, even if you have some aversion with regard to intimacy, it may not be fear. It could be dislike of intimacy. Further, it could just be dislike of intimacy with certain people - like family members and old boyfriends.
There are a number of things in your world that could cause discomfort with intimacy, and that could include the issue with the father and grandmother; but doesn't have to. If you're someone "the world" kind of doesn't know is "in there" you can get "write off" the world in terms of wanting to relate in certain ways. If you have people around you, who are telling you what is wrong with you THEY could contribute to dislike of intimacy
Chances are you just haven't met the person you want to be bothered being emotionally intimate with; and maybe you're someone who doesn't particularly need that type of thing anyway. Think a long time before you just accept that you have some problem that other people have decided you may.
If its a problem for you, and you want to understand yoursel fbetter, talk to a professional.
2006-12-03 18:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might be true; if you fear rejection you will withdraw from any situation that poses a risk of rejection. In a romantic sense as well you would be afraid of loving in case you get hurt. It could be because you've been hurt before. You hould realise that reaching out to anyone is a risk worth taking; rejection helps you sieve.
2006-12-03 18:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiffany:
Fear of intimacy could have different reasons for different people. It is impossible to know why is that happening to you without a psychological evaluation. If this is being an obstacle in your life I recommend you to visit a professional clinical psychologist to evaluate your particular situation.
2006-12-03 18:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by gsegurah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concern of intimacy has to do with an apprehension of intercourse. the two by way of fact of a scarcity of self belief of their overall performance, or visual attraction or what have you ever. concern of dedication is an apprehension of being with one guy or woman for a protracted time, or making some thing extra everlasting, like getting married.
2016-10-13 23:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it is rejection, abuse and hurt or one of them.
But I know Someone who can heal you in this area if only you would allow Him to.
He bore your pain and rejection on the cross and brought you salvation and healing when He died in your place. He is the Only one who can heal you and enable you to rise above the negative and tio live a full and meaningful God-ordained life!
His Name is Jesus Christ. Will you ask Him to help you? He is only a prayer away. Inviting Him into your life will be the BEST THING you will ever do to and for yourself!
Trust me, I've been there and now live a VICTORIOUS life in Christ Jesus!
2006-12-03 19:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by godshandmaiden 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know what it means but its caused by someone you thought liked you but didn't like say someone asked you out and u go all excited and you said yea and he was joking and everyone found out. or your afraid about what will happen after you are intimate but its not something that comes from another relative.
2006-12-03 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, could be. It could be a fear of yourself. Make your weakest pt your strongest pt. Don't let fear dictate your life...
2006-12-03 18:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by bettyboop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋