I have been dating exclusively through the internet for a few years now. In the process of e-mailing & chatting back & forth, I often mention that I regularly go to the tanning salon. More often than not, these women seem to be surprised and or, put off by this. I would have thought just the opposite.
Most guys look forward to a nicely tanned woman. I would have thought the same in return. Girls, care to shed any light on this???
2006-12-03 18:04:45 · 30 answers · asked by johngolfs2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Man, I've gotta tell you those girls are just so weird to be surprised by you getting some tan. There is nothing wrong on that and yes, girls dig guys with nice tan. You are right!
I guess those girls may have freaked by the concept of a guy going to a salon to get tanned. (just like the concept of girls lifting weight in a room full of men.)
Maybe I have a lot of guy friends who have membership at a tanning salon and go there regularly and that I'm used to it.
2006-12-03 18:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tanning bed tans tend to be orange looking, and people who are into tanning are usually really stupid people who arent concerned about skin cancer and still think its cool to fry their skin. This can be a turn off for people because they believe they are dealing with someone who is not up to speed with the latest health info. Plus its not as if you happened to be working out in the sun and got a tan, you went to a tanning salon which seems kind of prissy. This might give the impression that you are fussy about your looks and vain.
2006-12-03 19:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with a nice tan, definitely! I'm for it. But if the reaction you are getting is surprise and dislike, maybe you are going too often. Tone it down a bit. Sometimes tanning too often in the bed creates the 'leatherlike', fake and bake look. And that is Not atrractive. Just go a little bit less.
2006-12-03 21:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by indithral11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, today, any type of special grooming guys do is looked upon as "kind of girly". This been the case, you shouldn't bring this up on your first couple of dates (or conversations), just let them see you and judge for themselves. And if they ask, just tell them the truth. You can even make a date out of it, like "Yeah, I go to the tanning salon, wanna come with me sometime? it's really relaxing..." That way, because they know you better by now, it comes up as something cute, rather than girly or vain. I know, it's unfair, but keep the faith, times are changing. Good luck!
2006-12-03 18:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guys tanning at a salon....why the heck not? Perhaps these women feel a bit threatened by it for whatever reason....or at the very least, they are uncomfortable with the idea. I dated a gentleman who actually turned me on to the whole tanning bed thing again(after 15yrs hiatus) because he did it. Took me to the salon on a casual date.....it was a treat! I live in a cold dark climate and I love visiting the tanning beds. So anyhoo, there is my two cents worth! :)
2006-12-03 18:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Janet 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that I would personally find it a turn off too. Sorry! I guess in my mind it would conjure up images of a buff-oily-gym type guy and that's really not my bag, I just like someone natural. It's sad to say but I think it's different for women - as guys like nicely tanned women I think women look for different attributes in a guy, and not the kind of attribute that would drive him to the tanning slaon. I know it's nothing unusual and that plenty of men do it but still I guess those are my feelings.
2006-12-03 18:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honest answer? It sounds a bit superficial. It comes across as you being very into your own look. It may make some women stop and say, "okay he's really into his "look" maybe he's too vain". Or they may feel intimidated as they may not be that secure with thier own appearances and feel like you'd be high maintenance compared with what ever rountine they have. Most women don't take that great a step to try to look good. Maybe they think you'd be more interested in someone who tans also.
I don't find it weird at all, but I caution you to be cautious with your skin. Cancer and wrinkles happen very easily.
Good luck and happy dating.
2006-12-03 18:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kris17 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think alot of people stereotype "tanning" as a girly thing. U don't hear many guys who go to the beach or go to tanning salons to get tanned. It's just how the society thinks of some things. I would personally be curious why u need to do that, but if it makes u happy, then go for it. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-12-03 18:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by fldrod 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
as for myself, i dont go by what someone looks like, i mean dont get me wrong if he is too ugly then i wont date or anything but most women look to find someone that she knows will treat her right and take care of her. if you are bragging about your tan i suggest you not to do it because if i was talking to someone on the net and in the first 30 minutes we talk he is tellin me about his tan, i am not gonna give him a chance. but that is just me, some women out there only want men for looks and money.
2006-12-03 19:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got me, if you want a fake bake I can't imagine why anyone would have a problem with it. How about this, don't tell anyone else that you go to a tanning salon and you won't have to hear it from the ones that don't like it.
2006-12-03 18:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋