Why do some people who crave attention push people away once they get it?

Answer 1

I think one of two possibilities:

1) everybody wants to be NOTICED
nobody wants to be WATCHED

the starting mentality is something like: "look at me, look at me--care about me--think I'm cool--don't I deserve attention"
but gosh, don't watch me and supervise and see me make mistakes.

its a lack of self-esteem. Needing to be an object of attention, but then afraid of being unable to hold that attention successfully. I think they believe its better to push away first.

or

2) once the attention is attained--there's no challenge left.

Like dad and mom bring home a little sibling. older sibling competes for the attention. Doesn't really want dad watching all the time--but gosh when he's cuddling the baby, suddenly! look at me dad!

"I could get their attention if I wanted to-see?"

Answer 2

It's the wrong kind of attention that they are getting,,, they are looking for something else,,, or because they fear that something will happen to make that person go away and stop paying attention to them,,, and then they will be in the same boat ,, wanting and needing that attention,,,, I get this way sometimes,,, then I back off of the attention because I dont want to lose that power that I have to get the attention I want. Sounds crazy but true.

Answer 3

because they really did not crave this attention, at least not the way they thought. we are taught to crave attention a certain way (more people in your life) but that's not the answer for some people.

also, the type of people you let into your life are important 2 u.

find out what you really want, what kind of attention, from whom. in the process, you'll learn about yourself.

Answer 4

You've answered your own question. Once an attention seeker has had their desire fulfilled, meaning they got the attention they wanted, they go about their merry way. They'll come back when they want more.

Answer 5

It could be approach-avoidance, a classic neurotic pattern. It means for whatever reason they are in conflict. A little therapy
may help them discover why they are repeating this behavior and change it to something more fulfilling.

Answer 6

Are you a victim in this some kind of disease? Well better see some therapist to better advice you on that matter. It's hard to be keeping that problem. It might get worst until it can't be solve anymore. you don't want that moment to come, don't you?

Answer 7

i think sometimes they don't realize that they have pushed people away. they're so caught up with themselves and who can give them what they crave that they forget the people who don't always cater to them.

Answer 8

because they feel that the people that put them there arnt good enough and arnt giving them enough attention

Answer 9

u mean the fine honeys