25 yrs ago or so my friend left her husband and it ended up only being a few day. he ran into me at a bar and i was drunk and didnt have a ride home so he gave me one. he park and started kissing me and sex happened. it should of never happened and wouldnt of if not for having my guard down. i barely even remember it. i never told her about it.. i just couldnt hurt her and didnt see a reason to hurt her because it was never going to happen again. i was so uncomfortable about it i drifted apart from them but always remained friends with her. and still to this day we talk online or when i am back home. today out of the blue she calls me and says she think her hubby is cheating and hes lots older and verbal abusive to her and he said something about that night to her. she asked me about it.. of course i denied it and said he wishes. his goal i think was to hurt her. either way i was wondering what to do.. let on like it never happend or confess to my old friend. no 1 knows this took place
2006-12-03 17:09:47 · 9 answers · asked by Kat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thank you all very much.. i feel bad enough for the both of us..i never talk to him. only to say hi or bye if i see him.. i was feeling the same way you all do.. no need to make things in her life worse on her. thank you again.. kat
2006-12-03 17:24:51 · update #1
lol dont worry not drank in years lol. that ate at me forever anyway. couldnt of done something like that again to anyone. my consionous couldnt of took another bad move like that again. just praying she dont ask again.. i know i wouldnt want to know about it if it happened to me. thank you for your comments.. you all been a big help.
2006-12-03 17:51:16 · update #2
i probably would not tell her what happened with you and the slimeball. I'd support her, but the incident was 25 years ago and it's probalby not in your best interest to reveal what happeend. So now you know he is capable of cheating, then support your friend any way you can. and it's probably not a good idea to see that guy again. Good luck.
2006-12-03 17:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! You telling her would only make her despise you and make her feel like sh*t for not knowing all these years..She already knows what a jerk he is so it's not like your trying to save her from something she don't already know..Leave that in the past..DENY till the end!
Gosh remind me never to leave my man unattended with you when you've had a few to many!!LOL "
just kidding"
Been there done that many years ago!!
2006-12-03 17:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. He is trying to hurt her.
Let it stay dead. It can't help her today. Twenty-five
years is a long time. Your not even that person anymore.
Just be a good friend. She really needs one.
But be careful...just listen..don't have anything to say
when it comes to him. Just listen. If she would happen to
repeat anything it could blow up in your face.
2006-12-03 17:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by J B W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was 25yrs ago, i would probably tell her the truth. She's less likely to be as pissed at you as she would have been had you told her back then. She deserves to know, wouldn't you want to know if you were in her shoes?
2006-12-03 17:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by justadream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree with thwe majority....but if this had happened last month that could be a very different story..
2006-12-03 17:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely say DON'T CONFESS, DENY THE WHOLE THING
2006-12-03 17:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Estrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no its been 25 years
2006-12-03 17:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don´t say a word!!!
2006-12-03 17:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Weltbürger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her
2006-12-03 17:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋