Married over 15yrs. She says she no longer ahs sexual feels for me. Says she still cares about me . treats me like a friend, roommate
2006-12-03 16:23:22 · 9 answers · asked by dlecasper2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dlecasper, people disagreed with Maddy, but she's right. Your wife could be experiencing a huge shift in hormones right now, and it can cause dramatic shifts in mood, sex drive and tolerance. This was my first thought in reading your question.
Yes, she could be having an affair, or entertaining the notion. Yes, that book would do you wonders, regardless. Getting in shape might get you some attention in the right direction. It's always good to try new things, from candlelight to KamaSutra, but you have to find the reason.
You need to tell her this hurts you, and that you need more explanation, and remind her of how much you find her desirable, and how you miss her affection--but please tell her to have her hormone levels checked out.
2006-12-03 16:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your wife. We have a tendency of getting lost in a marriage. Taking care of everyone but ourselves. She needs attention. Buy her flowers and take her to a nice restaurant. Also keep in mind it's the little things that count. Do the laundry and dishes. Leave her love notes (they can even be a little naughty). Most of all show her how you desire her mentally as much as physically. Good Luck
2006-12-03 16:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by SkyFrost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to jazz things up a bit. There's an awesome book that's an easy read called "Light Her Fire", by Ellen Kriedman (I think). It's the best thing out there for rekindling the spark. Get it, read it, it will help you in the first chapter. I got it for a previous partner and it was terrific!
2006-12-03 16:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer1414 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get in shape, in really good shape. She probably has a side bang lined up, someone she met who she is attracted too. It is by you improving your self and with time that she will come back. After she has a few bangs with this other person she will get bored provided the other aspects of your relationship are in order.
But if you make your body better than it is like getting a new body.
as a last alternative suggest swinging .
good luck
2006-12-03 16:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by pipo barnbarn 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey taht's alot ofbeing together hubby but i think love grows more between u when u saty with each other then u see less of each other.
anyz i am trying to say that i don't think she should treat u as a roommate.
work some thing out.
2006-12-03 16:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Hally berry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
looks like the flame died down a bit..you just got to find out how to re-light it...try pampering her..take a few days of together somewher romantic...dim the lights...massage her shoulders ect ect...if it was there b4 it can be there again...
2006-12-03 16:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what she likes sexually? Is there something she wants?
I suggest a counselor for a few sessions.
2006-12-03 16:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't you, she should go to her family doctor for a check up and also she should go see a therapist.
2006-12-03 16:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ekindel the fire in your marrage like when you meet and got married . works. my opion?
2006-12-03 16:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋