I want to have sex and everything but i tense up and i have no idea why. I want to so bad. People think something happened to me as a kid and i just don't fully remember. How can i stop this besides relaxing? i know to do that but i can't and i want to so bad. It makes me depressed each time we try and i can't. Thanks
2006-12-03 16:06:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2006-12-03 16:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kaity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not just relaxing but building the anticipation even higher.
You'll need to be patient with yourself and your partner will also need patience.
Try sitting in the dark with your partner both unclothed. Just touch, hold hands, caress, etc. Hold off for a long time and eventually you'll lose control and it won't matter.
There is no shame in being attractive or being attracted to someone. Don't let your concern over performance put a damper on it either.
Practice does make perfect.
When it happens it will but you'll really need patience.
2006-12-04 02:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by David W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet a psycho therapist.....its just a behavioural problem which can be solved by few sessions.........
2006-12-04 01:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm practice makes perfect...
2006-12-04 00:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by burnin_inphx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal_disorder
2006-12-04 01:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by redundantredundancy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋