I have been having problems for the past month contemplating if i am a gay or a bi.
I mean i like girls and stuff but i just like boys more and it's really confusing me. I really don’t know what to do.
And i don’t know how my parents will handle the news when i tell them because they both hate gays.
2006-12-03 16:03:44 · 20 answers · asked by ...:::[A][Z][Z][A][H]:::... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is just a bit hard to find if i am a gay or bi at my school. You see i go to an all boys school and believe me you don’t want anyone to know you are gay or bi or they WILL hurt you like i have experience
Also I have not been on a date with a girl or guy coz i am to scared and if i ask them out they will laugh at me.
2006-12-03 16:29:54 · update #1
You are obviously bisexual.
2006-12-03 16:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the three categories of sexuality are a little restrictive. A guy named Kinsey did a study back in the day and came up with a scale of sexuality (called the Kinsey Scale of course). He thought that everyone fell somewhere on a scale of 0-6. 0 is absolutely straight, and 6 is absolutely gay. Most people wouldn't fall into exactly 0 or 6, but somewhere in between. Maybe you're a 4 or 5, or a 3 (which would hypothetically correspond to completely bi). Try looking up his work and find out more. Good luck. Your well-being should be your primary concern. Do what you feel is right and safe for you.
2006-12-04 00:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by spanishmarlena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go soul searching first and find out what you really like. You do not have to have a word to define you yet. Just respect yourself enough to take the approprate time to get to know yourself. Setle your brain about your parents, lets be honest theres no hurry on that yet right? That can come when you find a parner that you want to introduce them to. For now focus on you and what you want and desire. You may be Bi you may be Gay but those are just terms. It will all come together just relax and open up a little.
2006-12-04 00:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by fancy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say this to ya but its all about self discovery...you have to find out for yourself... your best bet is discussing your feelings with someone thats not going to judge you... i wouldnt advise telling any of your friends just yet theres no need in outing yourself.
I was 15 going through the same thing...i ended out coming out at School..used to play football for the school team...lost my popularity and lost alot of friends...but at the same time discovered who my true friends were...
have a look online for gay youth groups in your area send them an email discuss it...get in touch with likeminded lads...
if your in the US
connexion.org is a non sexual gay/gayfriendly site...if your in the Uk try outintheuk.com whch again is a non sexual site that you can chat and just get to know some guys see where you go from there...
lifes what you make it...dont let it get to you..just enjoy yourself...
Im gay..wouldnt change it for the world!
2006-12-07 04:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by cinderfella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being straight myself, I'm not sure if I can relate. But in my mind, if you even have a small interest in women still, you are bi.
If any thought of being with a woman turns you off, then you are gay.
As for your parents handling the news of this...That is very difficult. I know of some parents who would disown their son/daughter if they were in this situation, but I also know of some who would eventually accept it. It's your choice in what way you want to handle that. But just know that if you choose not to tell them about this, you will be living a lie everyday for the rest of your life. Go with what your heart tells you to, and hopefully everything will work out for you.
2006-12-04 00:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Pauly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you like guys but can you see yourself in a longterm relationship with a guy? If you can't picture yourself in a long term relationship with another guy then you might just be attracted to them and not gay or completely bi.
2006-12-04 00:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by jordan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dl some porn with two girl (that you think are attractive) getting it on. How do you feel? if it excites you at all then you're bi. if not then you're gay. in order to tell you parents i suggest you wait until you know for sure what's going on. you prob. won't officially know what you are unti you've gained a good understanding of yourself...usually you won't know until you're 18-twenties. So if it means waiting until then, then i think you should do that. that's just my opinion though.
2006-12-04 00:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you may be bi, but you can encoursge them to speak better of gays without coming out. Tell them you have a giid friend who is gay and perfectly normal
2006-12-04 00:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who do you feel that you can have a relationship with? Sex is sex and that you can enjoy with both , but not all can have relationships with both. You might find yourself more comfortable around guys and not girls. I am gay , I do find women atractive but I don't feel that I could ever have a relationship with one. Hope this helps.
2006-12-04 00:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound bi to me. . .but you just have to figure that stuff out for yourself. In a way, it really comes down to who you feel the most comfortable with.
2006-12-04 00:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by VoDkA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you might really be gay and just be afraid and thats ok your parents love you the might have a hard time with it but all and all they love you so don't deny yourself of something that makes you happy and is part of who you are to just keep them happy yes they are your parents but it is your life
2006-12-04 00:07:40 · answer #11 · answered by james_lynne1977 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋