Hey guys its my first time in the forum and I stumbled to this closed session. I would like re-open it again because my wife is too strong minded that hates to admit that she was wrong sometimes. I reckon its got someting to do with independence. Having a man to sometimes share his idea to his wife or girlfriend could create an argument. I have to say, small arguments lead to much bigger ones and later on may lead to a divorce. Men love women who are independent but sometimes they are so independent that turns into being controlling. I love my wife don't get me wrong but some days she would actually pick a fight on the most stupidest thing. A simple conversation while she was cooking created a big fuss between us because she said that she doesn't want to be disturbed while doing that. I have to say she had a long day at work but all I did was I offered her a drink, asked her a simple question about the paperwork to be shredded and reminded her about the bills. So whats wrong with that?
2006-12-03 16:00:28 · 15 answers · asked by Macky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because she had just finished a long day at work...came home...thought about what to cook you two for dinner...cooking chills some people out then you come along...want a drink? what about this paperwork that needs shredding? Have you paid the bills....blah blah blah!!! It would have pissed me off too!
Next time, pour her a drink and YOU do the cooking.
;)
2006-12-03 16:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by puffy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is being independent and then there is controlling/domination...not difficult to separate! I am all for independent, strong willed women in the workplace, AND at home, but when domination rears its ugly head then i am nobodies carpet. There should be give and take on both sides in a relationship-its a "team" effort..(remember, there is no "I" in team!!)..but when one side of the team,(males as well as females-it has to be said!),starts to control-or dominate, then something is out of sync-and its time to get it fixed. If your wife is "too strong minded" as you say-then you both need to talk-togeather. QUICKBROWN...you are so totally wrong, not all men are like that at all-if you have had problems in the past with guys like this, you are obviously picking the wrong guys to be with...please don't stereotype us all.
2006-12-03 20:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when being 'independant' is used to defend being a b*tch, I'm not saying that your wife is or that the fact she snapped after a long day is bad, but she should apologise, as should anyone who takes something out on an innocent by stander. But I've found that overly aggressive, rude obnoxious women hide their flaws behind being 'independant'.
Being able to support yourself, financially, mentally etc without the need for other people is independant - socially inept isn't
2006-12-03 16:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope not... i still hope to find a husband one day, and i am pretty independant, and strong willed. but communication is the key to any relationship. i am independant, in the job that i have, the daily life i live, but thats just because i dont feel that anyone else will make as much effort for something i want. the kind of effort i will put into getting someone what they want.... but i do believe and hope, once married - i will relax a bit more and hopefully i will feel secure enough to just live... and be happy.
2006-12-03 18:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by aisha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independent women don't scare me a bit, but yours may have an anxiety disorder, in which the slightest variation from routine leads to a panic attack. I ran into this with a member of my family. It is treatable with counseling and medication. It is a ***** to diagnose, because many physicians are not familiar with it.
2006-12-03 16:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Independent women scare away the wrong men.
2006-12-03 16:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If an independant woman scares you that is a shortcoming in YOUR character don't base all men on YOUR character.
2006-12-03 16:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand her. Why dont you help her in the kitchen and with other jobs instead of REMINDING her??? Nobody needs a reminder.
2006-12-04 08:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do - men are full of sh*t - if they are really hot for you they want you to be totally dependent on them so they can be the big hero
2006-12-03 19:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Saucy B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its way too much stress and releasing it on you, that why she argues with you even over the smallest thing. you should help her get it off her chest then you'd both feel better
that goes for any relationship
2006-12-03 21:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tekken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋