How do you tell a person that thinks your her friend that your not?

Question

Another reason i'm having trouble is because i've know this person for not too long but a nice amount of time. We use to hang out even though i did not want to. When she comes to my house and asks if i wanna do something with her, i say no but then i feel like a jerk. The thing is this person is really self-centered, lies, and thinks that she is the best. She thinks everyone likes her and that everyone is her friend, although, we do talk about her behind her back and when she gets off the bus, every once in a while the students will chant together saying, "S-L-U-T! What's that spell? Courtney!"...so as you can see, nobody really likes her.
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Answer 1

If you truly don't want to be her friend, then don't act like you are. Sometimes you have to hurt people to get your point across.

Answer 2

Do you not want to be friends with her because she's genuinely a bad person, or because everyone else doesn't like her? If you've only heard about her being bad, then it might just be rumors.

If you know she's not a nice person, there are two steps you can take.

1) Sit down with her and explain why you wouldn't want to be friends with her. Many people have serious character flaws without realizing it. She may not know. If someone tells her, she may try to change for the best. You could approach the subject by saying something like "hey, you know people don't think really highly of you. Do you know why?"
2) Tell her you really don't have any feelings of friendship towards her.

I really recommend the first. People deserve to know why people don't like them, just don't be mean about it.

Answer 3

i can't even imagine how you could use her the way you do.
she's good enough for you when you don't have your friends.
this generation is so mean, to one and other. don't you kids realize that people do have feelings.
i don't think you know her well at all.
and what you and your friends are doing as far as picking and poking on her behind her back.
get some balls and tell her that you don't want to hang around w/ her, instead of talking nice to her face and then talk smack behind her back. we call that two faced. and hypocritical, how would you like to be her. try to put her shoes on and walk in them on day. until you can that keep your ingnorent comments to yourself.
i think maybe you and the others are jelious of this chick. the only thing you need to do. is get over yourself. i'm sure there is people that don't like you either. and you think thay do. and you know as soon as you turn your back they are talking about you to. don't think they aren't.

Answer 4

NO ones asking you to like the girl, but the chants have to stop.. I never condone that type of action, no matter how bad the person is...
You dont have to be her friend, but I wouldnt advice telling her to get lost, Just make polite excuses to get out of the situation, dont feel guilty about your choice and soon enough time will be on your side and she'll find other interests besides you.. But be polite and diplomatic about it.. If it was you that was on the other end, you wouldnt want people being mean to you.. Just bow out gracefully...

Answer 5

So, what you've written is that you've behaved badly towards her, and yet you criticize her as a way to make what you've done look right.
Maybe it's time to take a look at yourself and your behavior before you talk badly about someone else.
It doesn't take much courage to be part of a group chanting at one person. You can do it in a group, but not as an individual.
Gutsy.
Good luck with your life. Maybe one day they'll be chanting at you, and you'll have to reflect on where you messed up....

Answer 6

Just tell the girl straight out. Stand her in front of you and literally spell it out. Speak nice and slow and say it. "I am not your friend, I do not like you. I try to hint to you that I don't like your company either, but you won't take the hint. So I have to say it straight up."
If she still wants to be your friend afterwards and keeps her behavior the same as before, than you may use her as well to your wishes. She apparently won't listen to you, so do what you think is best, just don't let her get to you. Annoy her back as she does you, and she's bound to take a step after that. Good luck.

Answer 7

Unless she has specifically done anything to harm you there is no reason why you should hurt this girl's feelings.
If you don't want her friendship you will need to tell her straight
& she is entitled to know the true reason. In your case the reason is, she lacks the virtues you are looking for in a friend.
However I hope you don't join in with the chanting and ganging up against her.

Answer 8

you have got to be joking. this is the kinda crap you here in high school. If you dont like her dont talk to her, dont let her in to your house and dont socialize with her. once you start doing that she will soon get the point, and if she askes you why your suddenly not talking to her, just tell her. to be totally honest with you if I was her and I found out you where calling me a slut and saying awful things about me behind my back I would not want to be your friend anyway.

Answer 9

Well......it's obvious other people don't like her, but what has she done to you personally? Or it this a classic case of someone just following the crowd....they don't like her, so you won't???? Be honest with yourself, is that the reason? My advice for anyone in school is to be nice to everyone....EVERYONE. No one says you have to be best friends or even hang out, but being nasty or rude to someone is just wrong.

Answer 10

You should just break it off with her completely.Has any of the people who calls her slut, really tried to get to know her,though?