I have terrible fears and worries all the time. I worry about the delivery, the after, and the in between. I worry something will happen to me, to my guy, to my baby. I am truly scared that it brings me to tears. This just started this week. I dont know what to do...I just get these thoughts...I play out these things like SIDS happening, or something happening with my guys diabetes. I dont know what I would do if I lost this baby at any point or him at any point. I dont know what to do...is this normal??
I am 20 weeks pregnant.
2006-12-03 15:18:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 21wks and have been there!!
I think it has alot to do with hormones and with general maternal instincts to worry about things that may/may not happen, could/could not happen.I worried about everything from ectopic pregnancy to miscarriage to missed miscarriage to stillborn etc, as well as the things that could happen to my fiance (who has diabetes as well!) All these horror stories running around in my head hour after hour is not good! It really is enough to drive yourself insane!
I think all you can do is TRY to take a step back a bit. Try not to focus on the negatives - all the bad things that could happen to your partner or baby. its not good for you, its not good for your baby. And if you partner knows about it then its not good for him either (my guy keeps me grounded but if he listens to me raving about things that could go wrong enough its expected he'd start to have concerns also!)
You need to just stop and take a breather. Train yourself to think about what baby will look like/be like etc instead of all the bad things that could happen. Concentrate on the good instead of the bad - when i start to feel anxious i rub my belly - it has an instant calming affect on me as i immediately think about my baby growing inside and it never fails to put a smile on my face.
If you want to email me my address is in my profile - feel free
Best of luck - everything will be ok! :)
2006-12-03 16:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a mother. You will have constant worries for the next 18 years, if not the rest of your life. Just calm down, breathe, and count to ten, whenever you start to feel scared. I still check on my 6 month old when he is sleeping, I still worry about my 3 and 5 year olds. It's perfectly natural and normal, as a mother, to worry. If your worries become irrational, or if you think that they are interferring with your parenting skills, then call a doctor and discuss it.
2006-12-03 15:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Franky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's normal.
I dunno, I think it's something hormones put you through as practice for actually being someone's mom. Having that child out there in the world is an emotional risk you can't comprehend - if you think about it as a mother it's so breathtakingly terrifying you can't stand it! And pregnancy gives you the chance to learn to face these fears and learn that all you can do is inform yourself, fill yourself with love, and above all have faith that things will work out well enough if you do your best.
You're just in a stage that you need to get past. Apply yourself to overcoming it - you're in control of your thoughts. Realize that whatever happens, happens, and you WILL deal with it, whatever -- there's no sense sitting around ruining THIS lovely day, with thinking about the remote possibility of an ugly one in your future! You can ruin the future just by neglecting the present. And remember that your hormones are going to clear up more and more, and it should get easier as pregnancy goes on, to focus yourself on what is here and now and on believing in good outcomes.
2006-12-03 15:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, worrying is not going to help. Of course there are things that could happen and you should be prepared for that, but you can't control any of it. It's completely normal to be worried and even to freak out like you have, but in the end, the best thing you can do for your baby is to stay safe and healthy. Beyond that, you just can't do any more, so there's no need to worry.
2006-12-03 15:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just your mothery instinct kicking in. Some of us get HUGE doses of it. You have to learn to control it--and that is not an easy thing to learn to do.
It doesn't go away when that baby is an adult either. In fact, you just get more worries because they stay out late and are driving a car. Or they move out on their own...and what if something happens to them at their house--I won't be there.
You are one of us that were given the jumbo-sized mothery instinct. You can't give it away, it is a life-long affliction. But there are worse things in life--like being one of those mothers that never even get a little dose of mothery instinct--the ones that walk out on their kids, or worse.
So you have a good thing.
2006-12-03 15:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 11:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal hon--hormones--the fear of the unknown--Just hang on and know that no matter what happens you will find a way to rise to the occasion and handle the situation! Millions of women have had babies and all was well--so be calm!
2006-12-03 15:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear and motherhood go hand in hand!
But, try adding a supplement of Cod Liver Oil, or something similar. It really helped me feel better, less fearful and more upbeat during pregnancy. It's great for baby too!!
2006-12-03 21:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like general anxiety disorder. if it continues much longer or gets worse you should look into getting some counseling.
2006-12-03 15:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lily18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal and it's just the beginning of many more years of worry.
2006-12-03 15:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sooozy&Sanobey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋