hi
I could use some advice. I have decided that I need to take a break from my guy friend at school. anyway, this has happened several times to me where I feel like I need a break from him. I try to avoid him, but all he has to do is smile at me or talk to me or ask me whats up and act like he actually cares (which he doesn't) and then I forget it all and pretend nothing happened. Its a cycle, I can't seem to avoid him forever, and he always knows what to say to make me forget he acted like a jerk to me. When I confront him, he gets defensive and gets me to feel like I did wrong and gets me to apologize and feel bad. My school is small, avoiding him is simply impossible. I want to stick with this, but I have a feeling I'll fail like I did all the other times. Any suggestions to how I can stand up for myself and stick w/ it? THANKS!!
2006-12-03 15:07:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Crying always scares them. Next time he treats you like a jerk, start crying. He'll feel like an ***.
2006-12-03 15:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by AshleyH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart, avoiding the person will not solve the problem. You've got to face the facts and stand your ground for your right to get respect from someone who pretends to be your friend. It did happen several times you say, so this seems to be a pattern and the person is taking advantage of your good nature. He is NOT your friend if he treats you this way.
Please do not begin by thinking you will be failing! This is a negative attitude and it will lead you nowhere! Focus on succeeding to get the respect you deserve and stand your ground! Have a short meditation on this situation and evaluate if it is worth your time and attention. The guy is a charmer; probably a future womanizer if not already and ask yourself if you really need it in your life right now?
This is my honest suggestion to you. Love yourself enough to demand respect as you do the other person and you will be able to stand up for what is right for YOU!
2006-12-03 23:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess his inconsistent behavior is what is making you so uncomfortable with your friend. You need to make the choice to just not be available for this type of behavior. You have legs to walk away. Don't waste your time trying to fix him just smile and say, "I gotta go, later." If he starts feeling that you have a problem with him, he will probably start to behave. Just short and sweet always and move away. This always works, just quit playing the victim. That is what keeps drawing him to you anyway. You have the RIGHT to be left alone.
2006-12-03 23:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUst straight up tell him you think he is a butt head and he'll leave you alone for a while and then maybe he'll realize what he's lost and be nice
2006-12-03 23:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋