I'm obsessed in my mind with people respecting me, admirating me, and praising me. And most of the time if I get that acknowledgment, I don't truly appreciate it, I don't care. How do I satisfy my ego?
2006-12-03 15:06:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I got a thought. Maybe I should work on my self love? If you're jealous then you don't love yourself fully I believe. Maybe I should find something I like to do.
2006-12-03 15:23:25 · update #1
Everyone likes the feeling of being recognized but chasing that "high", like any addiction be it an emotion or drug, will consume your thoughts and control your actions.
Instead of satisfying your ego, destroy your ego. Take control of your own mind. You can either be a prisoner to your reactions to thoughts or the master of your thoughts and in turn actions.
Discovering your ego is the first step in destroying your ego. Every time you have an ego driven thought. Stop, recognize it, and change it to what you want your thought to be.
If you don't truly care, then tell yourself that next time you find yourself getting upset with someone not acknowledging you. Then let it go and move on mentally.
It's easier to stop the boulder from falling down the hill if you catch it at the top when it is just beginning. Catch your thought as early as possible. The more you focus on changing your mindset, the easier it will be to recognize the thoughts as they develop and stop them from consuming you.
2006-12-03 15:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by taylor799802 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you crave acknowledgment because you have a lack of self esteem. However, since you dismiss the acknowledgments you do receive, I think it is a cognitive behavioral problem. You see, in order to appreciate praise, you must find some essence of truth in it - something, perhaps small, that you truly agree with. For example, if someone told you you had impeccable integrity but you knew you told lies, you would have difficulty accepting that compliment and dismiss it. However, if that same person told you that you showed impeccable integrity when you acknowledged an error, you probably would accept that compliment because it, in that instance, was true. I believe you dismiss positive feedback because you really don't fully believe you deserve it. Work on building your self-esteem and I'm sure your "cravings" will subside. good luck!
2006-12-03 23:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by cordeliasheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like classic narcissism BUT in your case not so much because you recognize the behavior. Many true narcissists don't see themselves doing anything wrong.
If you're under 21, this may pass as it is common among people of this age. If you're an adult and would like to nip this in the bud before it ruins every interpersonal relationship you try to have, seek a good therapist. This should not be a hard thing to correct if you're really open to it.
2006-12-03 23:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the stars in hollywood, they feel the same way
2006-12-03 23:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by schua33460 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about leaving your home for once!
2006-12-03 23:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋