Friends grow apart?

Question

so i used to be a part of this little group of friends. we were all super close, but this yr its not like that. i dont have any classes with them, and we're not involved in each others lives. i care sooo much about them, but they dont seem to care at all...and it bothers me. all i want is their friendship. what do i do? talking to them hasnt work. they say im being hypersensitve, ahhh. crazy. i love my friendships. plz help

Answer 1

A wise sage has said, 'If a loved one drifts away let it go : If it comes back, it is yours forever. If not, you never had it in the first place.' :
That is life, dear. It is best to move on - and find new and trustworthy friends, and be one yourself.
Best of Luck.

Answer 2

Well believe it or not I am in the same situation as yourself. I am not sure how old you are or anything about you but I believe that wat I have to offer as advise might help you. Earlier this year out of the blue my friends stopped calling stopped returning calls and avoided me like the plague. When I finally gave up thinking that they were my friends, because friends dont treat a person like this, I wrote them each letters. I explained how I felt about the situation and how I saw that our relationship wasn't really friendship. I left it open ended as to why they did their actions so as not to place blame on either party. I then left it in thier mail boxes knowing that they would recieve it. By doing this it lifted so much weight off my chest. It was hard at first to move on but comming to terms of the relationship or lack there of allowed me to not give it much thought. Not saying that I didnt ever cuz I did. But I moved on with my life. Now six months later one has tried to make contact with me asking if we can be friends again and if this was any other time previously I would ahve said yes ibut now I cant see myself ingaging with her again. I really do hope that this helps or at the very least lets you know that it happens to other people.

Answer 3

Accept that last year was a different year than this one. People change. If you've been trying to rekindle what was once there and they are not going for it, then move on. Maybe later on in the year or even next year you'll get close to one or a few of them. It depends on interests, peers, environment. This will happen to you in life beyond school. We are always changing, and life is always changing with us. It's the way. Don't resist it but accept it. You have many great opportunities to meet other poeople and you'll find that you won't want to look back.

Answer 4

I remember when my middle daughter went through that, and I'm sorry for your loss of your friends. Good friends stick together no matter what, but when you're still in school that kind of thing does happen. I tried introducing my girl to friend's of mine's daughters, and she didn't like that idea at all. Just don't sit at home by yourself wondering what you did wrong, especially this time of year..join in organizations or groups that help out other people, it might make you feel better and you might just make some new friends too along the way.

Answer 5

Well the same situation happen to me several times before When, I started to realize that my ex friends weren't digging me anymore I had to sit back and take a serious look at the picture. At the end I decided to love me and do what was best for me. A true friend sticks by you through thick and thin I would encourage you to examine the situation very carefully.

Answer 6

Sadly i grew apart from a friend of mine. Sadly my answer from experience is that its like trying to stop a moving train. If you feel you are growing apart then you might just have to accept it. But sincerely hope you have a happier ending.

Answer 7

as you grow older its harder to maintain friendships, because you do tend to grow apart and meet new people and gain new interests. i would advise you to try to meet some new people and make some new friends. its hard to let go of the people you care about but sometimes you just have to move on.

Answer 8

That has happened to me several times. If they keep shrugging you off and telling you that you are overreacting and need to get over it you need to ditch them. Take my advice just walk away now if they dont want to try to be friends with you, you shouldnt want to be friends with them.

Answer 9

well you know friends come and go. if they don't want to try and mend your friendship, maybe it's not worth saving. when people grow older they grow apart. so maybe you should give them some time.