How do you think my life is going?????

Question

I was just wondering what you think about my life:

I'm 17
8 months pregnant
getting married on valentines day
living in rome
i weighed 115 before i got pregnant
now i weigh 134
i have black hair, green eyes(i look alot like sophia bush)
My fiance is 26 and he is italian/american
his name is Jay, he had brown hair and blue eyes
he has a good job--(military)
our baby is a girl
her name will be October--named after me!
i live in the beautiful city of Naples Italy
I have a good house
i ahve a working car
i have a part time job--american librarian on the military base

but here are the things that i think are bad:

my parents want to kill me right now
i think that i cannot handle a baby
i have not seen my friends in 6 months
i speak good italian, but not well enough to make some friends
my soon to be sister-in-law, really hates me and is trying to break us up.
My doctor speaks only italian, so my poor, tired fiance' has to cut time off of work to translate.

I'm just wondering if my life is going to work out well, and the opinions of my progress. i welcome all comments, but i would really appreciate it if there were no rude remarks

I am going to college online right now, i already graduated highschool and im attending stanford online. i will graduate with my bachlors degree in 3 years

Answer 1

sounds great you want to settle down early! Just don't be pressured into anything. You mothering instincts will come naturally so don't worry.

Answer 2

I think you have a good life. I am also pregnant but I am 19 going to be 20 tomorow baby is due anyday and i am not married and i don't have a job my point is you have a great man and soon to be the most precious thing in this world to you come into the world your parents are just upset because they probably had bigger plans for you and your life just give them time and keep in touch with them make sure to call them when you have the baby if they are still mad and wont talk send them pictures because no matter what they are your parents and your childs grandparents and they will always love and care for you. the whole getting married thing make sure you are not doing it just because you are having a baby make sure you love him thats all i have to say about that. How old is your sister-in-law if she is younger than her brother then that might be the problem you are taking her older brother from her you understand but if you need to talk feel free to IM me I don't mind I can talk to you I might not be where you are but I can at least be here for you on line I am a very nice person and a good listener so like I said if you need to talk to someone IM me I am more than willing to talk to you [e-mail]

Answer 3

Well, I'm Spanish and Italian. I got pregnant at 17. You have your own family now, if your parents don't like you anymore, then forget them. Once you have children you lose friends. Growing up in America with an accent was really hard for me, because I was different from the other girls. I will hate the girl that marries my brother, because I am protective over him. Simple as that, your sister in law is the same way. You can handle this baby, take it step by step. I knew I would be able to handle my two children, it's hard, but you get through it. Don't let family get in the way of your success.

Answer 4

Well, it certainly wouldn't be what I would have chosen for myself at 17, or would choose for my daughter, but it is what is it and you should work hard to make the best and most of it.

I suggest that you work very hard at learning Italian so that you can better communicate, make friends, develop a support system for yourself. You'll need it with the baby.

Yes, children are an incredible responsibility but you're already a step ahead with a man (too old for you, of course, but again that's water under the bridge now) who cares enough to marry you, come to doctor's appointments, etc.

Try to make a nice home for your family and your baby. Take GOOD CARE of your baby by reading to her, being gentle, talking with her in both english and italian, playing with her, etc. Once you've made friends with other women, particularly those with children, you can all walk to the park with your babies, help each other, bond, etc.

Perhaps down the road you can work on your own development...ie finish school, attend college, develop skills and a career so that you have parts of your life that are yours alone.

I'm sorry you haven't seen your friends. Where are they? Hopefully you can e-mail them, or IM them, or talk to them on the phone, to keep up those ties. Of course, they may be doing very different things, unable to relate with you right now.

I wish you and your family the very best of luck.

Answer 5

having a baby is stressful on anyone. especially if you are a teenager. you need to really think twice about getting married. you have your whole life ahead of you, and you don't have to get married just because you are pregnant. believe it or not, your parents know best. as for the sister-in-law, be careful. she may just come up with a way to break you guys up and where would that leave you. are your parents near you? maybe you should consider moving back with them. my husband is 10 years older than me, and i will tell you it is hell sometimes. the age gap, makes a huge difference in our lives. we have been married for 10 years but it has been no easy ride. good luck to you and i hope it all works out, but no matter what you will be fine.

Answer 6

Hey.. You sound like you're pretty happy... And you sound like you'll probably be a good mother... Though I don't know you... You're so lucky to be living in italy!!!!!!!
The only thing I say would be you're pretty young at 17, and your husband to be is almost 10 years older than you.. But I'm sure you've been through this in your mind.. So if you're happy with were you're headed than congrats... I'm glad that you're still doing school... You sound like a good person.... But only 4 yars older than myself, hard to believe... Anyways.. Good luck! And blessings!

Karina

Answer 7

How your life works out is up to you! Love yourself, your baby and your fiance and enjoy living in a beautiful city. It sounds to me like things are not so bad! If you need help, then seek out people that are helpful and positive for you and sepparate yourself from those that choose to be negative and angry. Share with those close to you that may be negative or angry how their behavior and/or words affect you.

About your parents, something magical seems to happen once they see that cute little grand baby of theirs! At least that was true for my mom and my grandmother when they saw my little one for the first time.

I'm not saying that things will be easy. Keep your chin up, expect the best for yourself in your future, love yourself and all will turn out well!

Your grace and love will bring you all that you need.

Answer 8

Sounds like a lot of stress for someone so young and halfway accross the country away from her parents. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

You ignored 2: life, AND WHY? God made you because of the fact He loves you. you have this style of element called 'objective', that's why you're unique, unique. That makes you 'specific', specific to not me, who cares approximately me, yet specific to the guy who created you--God. So, having coming to this end it would do you plenty sturdy, to seek His will to your life, and stay it to the main suitable of your skill. sturdy good fortune.

Answer 10

I think you should not marry because you are pregnant. You obviously feel that you are not ready and you feel like you are missing out on normal teen age things (which you are).

I would consider an open adoption.