2006-12-03 14:07:18 · 21 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and even be better but it takes a lot of hard work and lots and lots of trust that will take time to get back. I don't think it always happens but if you two are really in love I think you can find away, the most important thing is to learn from this.
2006-12-03 14:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Brianne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES ofcourse it can. Anything is possible if you really love each other enough. You need to speak to your wife and ask her why she cheated ?? She needs to be very open and honest with you about everything. You can't fix anything if you don't know why it broke in the first place. You must decide though whether you can forgive her and work out your problems. Trust is a major part of any relationship without it you have no relationship. If you truely love your wife and want your marriage to work you two can get past this. Your wife must also love you and want the same or there is no point in trying. Discuss your feelings with her and if it is what you both want, Go for it, it can work !! Good luck
2006-12-03 22:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you stay together..Absolutely if you are both truly committed. Ever fully recover? No...I will have been married for 10 years next month...and we still love each other very much...but a couple years ago there was an issue ...and I can say it still is not the same. Nor will it ever be, again. You lose something precious when someone cheats. Good luck to both. I wish you the best
2006-12-03 23:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned--absolutely not. When you are not happy with the current relationship or something is missing or you just aren't as fulfilled as you'd like to be, you need to be having conversations with your partner--be it a boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. You need to be nurturing that relationship not a new one. When you choose to go outside of the sacred relationship for whatever reason you have broken a trust and vow and bond that I feel can never be repaired fully. In my experience, I have never seen any couple completely recover and get strong enough to overcome the trust issue.
You need to ask yourself what you want. If you believe in every fiber of your being that she is sorry--assuming that she has apologized and swarn never to do it again--then you have to seek every means of help to overcome the loss of trust and feelings of betrayal. I mean seek out your clergy, self-help books, councelling...whatever it will take to help you through the process. It is a loss and you will go through all the stages of grieving that loss--denial, anger, acceptance, and finally moving forward. The two of you will need to do a lot of hard work and soul searching to deal with this effectively. If you both want to save this marriage, then she will also seek councelling to help her deal with the underlying issues of why she cheated in the first place so it doesn't happen again. Its a lot of work and its difficult to face those issues. Those who do are able to successfully overcome infidelity. Those who do not are doomed to a miserable marraige and eventually divorce.
So again I say....Ask yourself....with every fiber of your being what direction do you want this marriage to go from this point.
2006-12-03 22:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger question here is, why did she cheat on you.
You and your wife are already facing problems, and you may not be aware of it.
Marriages never break because of someone else. There is always breakdown first and that causes one of the partners to go outside the marriage.,
So, sit down and talk to your wife. Figure out what is wrong. Go to counselling.
The rest will fall in line.
2006-12-03 22:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES it can....
It takes an incredible amount of work, especially by the cheating partner, but it can happen.
There is a good forum called "Affair Discovery and Recovery" at
http://www.network54.com/Index/32374
You will find others who are going through what you are, there is support, links to other sites, reading lists, and others to share with. Its free, its anonymous, and it saved our marriage.
My wife cheated on me with my (ex) best friend four years ago, we are rebuilding our marriage and relationship. The big thing to remember is it takes time...work...and communication.
2006-12-03 22:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and the reason is because no matter how hard you try to put the past behind you somewhere somehow something will remind you of that time.You may be able to forgive her but we all have a tendancy to remember unpleasant things weather we want to or not.How you handle this is up to you but its hard to forget something as hurtful as this.You would have to be an extraodinary person to do this.
2006-12-03 22:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's compared to why she cheated. Were you separated? Were you away for selfish reasons? How often do you leave her? Do you go off and play and she has to be responsible for everything? If she repeatedly wants sex and you would rather watch sports, then what did you expect?
But if you are a loving, romantic, attentive husband who spends time making sure she is content in bed then throw her butt out and move on.
2006-12-03 22:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if u and her are really committed to it, and can move past the cheating and focus on your marriage instead of the cheating. u will always remember it, but if u can look past the cheating and if she is truly repentive than u have a good chance of making it work.
2006-12-03 22:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you feel okay if your wife cheated on you? If you think "NOT," you have already answered this question. If you think it is okay, then find out the reason why she cheated on you. The reason will answer it.
2006-12-03 22:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Doris W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋