2006-12-03 13:49:03 · 8 answers · asked by josh r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, I hate to tell you this but; you can't unless she wants to. There is something you can do but; it may remove you from your home depending on your age. If you are a minor you can call your local department of social services and speak to someone in the child protective services division. Tell them that she neglects you, if she does, that she abuses you, if she does and any other necessary information. If your accusations are found to be true, they will charge her with endangering the welfare of a child and she will be arrested. She will go to court and if it is her first offense, will probably be given probation or an ACD and be MADE to go to Alcohol Anomyous. If you are older and not living at home but there are minor children there, you can do the same thing. If there are no minor children and you do not live at home and are just concerned about your mom's drinking you can try to talk to her about it. Have an intervention where everyone she loves and cares for and everyone who loves and cares for her gets together and shares stories with her about how her drinking has hurt them. It takes a village to raise a child and sometimes that child doesn't know what they are doing until they are told. However, if she is hell bent on drinking, I don't think there is much you can do to get her to stop. It needs to be her choice. If she decides to, go to AA meetings with her and support her. Drinking is a hard addiction to break. You should try an Al-anon meeting, that would help you deal with your mom. You can email me if you have any questions on AA, I'll do what I can to help.
2006-12-03 14:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me your not alone on this one. My mom and stepdad both used to be really bad alcoholics, I mean everyday, 24-7. Until about 4 years ago my mom stopped drinking. I am 23 now and left home and moved out when I was 15 because of her drinking and mine and her relationship. There is one thing that I can say and that is you can not get a person to quit drinking they have to have the will power and want to stop for themselves not for anyone else. My mom went through rehab after rehab, for years and years, but everytime she came out not even an hour later she would start drinking again. Until one day she decided enough was enough and she quit and has not drank since. The only advice I can give you is not to push the issue because if you do you will only make matters worse on yourself and on her. She has to be ready to change for herself but you can be supportive to her without pushing the issue and not just flat out saying "quit drinking" I wish the best for you because I have been in your shoes. I know its hard but you have to find your own way of dealing with it.
2006-12-03 22:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by angelamcl8302 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Only she can do it. The best thing you can do is get yourself to Al-Anon or AlaTeen and help yourself. It's the only thing you CAN do.
I am almost 1 year in Al-Anon and have been with someone who drank for 18years before he finally became sober. What did it take? He had to decide to do it for himself. It had nothing to do with anyone, anything, losing job, family, endangering his life, our daughters lives, others. He had to choose not to drink all on his own.
2006-12-03 21:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct with her and tell her that you don't like it and would like if she stops drinking daily, if that doesn't work , get some help like maybe see if she will go to A.A. meeting or counselor and see if she is willing to stop drinking daily. Do not give up, stand up for your reasons of why you would like your mom to stop drinking daily. Best of lucks!
2006-12-03 21:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by greenhousethugz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not get her, a person with free will, to stop doing anything. She has to stop. Go to Alateen or Alanon for support. This is HER problem not yours.
2006-12-03 21:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
William is right. Go to Al-Anon and/or Alateen to meet others in your situation for support and encouragement.
2006-12-03 21:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a parent who drank too....but he just stopped one day and never drank again(I was lucky)...there is no way to get her to stop...what about your dad....where is he?? Any family members that can help you?_
2006-12-03 21:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if u ever get a good answer and it works....send it to me...b/c i have to same problem....
2006-12-05 21:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋