My baby daddy wont talk to me after 2 weeks of finding out i was pregnant?

Question

Hello everyone, i just moved to a new city about 6 months ago. met a man that is 33 and we have been "dating" for about 4 months now. He doesnt have any kids and he kept talking about how much he wanted to become a father. I have to admit that i let him attempt..and now i am about 6 weeks pregnant. He has been ignoring me for almost a week now. I went to his apartment, he has waved me off and wont answer the door or wont return my calls. I have scheduled for an abortion due to LOTS OF uneasy feelings about this "relationship" gone bad. He is a contract worker and makes money under that table so it would be hard for me to file and get child support. MOney, no family, and no support has led me to the decesion to get the abortion. Talk about stressed. Please help.

Answer 1

PLEASE DO NOT GET AN ABORTION! There are plenty of people willing to help you in your situation. Do not let some frightened man lead to the death of your child. Please go to a pregnancy crisis center. They can not only provide FREE counsling, but also any other services you need, from providing baby items to adoption referals if you decide you cannont keep your child. You are not alone, and there are people like me who love you and your child. Contact me if you need any help finding somewhere to help you, or if you just need to talk.

Answer 2

You don't have to explain your reasons for having an abortion. It is your choice. Is it your first one, because if it is, prepare for some more "uneasy feelings". I only speak from experience. You choices seem to be single mom or termination. I have done both and the later is much harder to deal with. Today it isn't so bad, it was a long time ago. Unless you are heartless, you should expect to have feelings of regret, being a murderer, wonder what sex the child would have bee, an uneasy sense of disclosure for which closure will never come, dreams with children in them and you are left wondering if that would have been him/her, these things among others. These things don't happen every day but; they happen enough that I am reminded that I will never forget.

Dump that looser. I'm sorry for all of you that you let yourself get pregnant to please a man who was all talk before you got married. Writing a letter to the aborted child and coming to God and staying with God is the only thing that has helped to ease the feelings that come along with the abortion. Once you do it there is no turning back. A lot of people will think bad of you and I hope you don't have to run into protesters outside the clinic but; if you feel that this is what you need to do, you'll have to do it. The difference between us and animals is that we have free will. The way we exercise that free will is what we are held accountable for. I just want you to know there is more to it. Once you abort the baby, there is a lifetime of wonder and rememberance. Good luck to you in the future. Speaking of the future please, never do this again. Go on the pill or something so this doesn't happen again.

Answer 3

the courts will make him pay for the child, there is help for u. i too found myself alone and pregnant once. the man i loved didn't love me, and i too had sceduled an abortion, but decided not to. my son is 30 years old now, a wonderful son, and i would have certinly missed out on it, had i decided to abort him just because the future looked bleak. the son i decided to have actually saved me from myself, and how i was living. because having a child makes some people more responsible, makes them think about the choices they make. i would be more stressed if i chose abortion than i would be with just having the baby and raising it. no matter how many children u have after this one, u will never forget this one, so maybe it is best to rethink your options, there is always help for people out there, there is always a way. this child is your responsibility, u made it, and u must now do what is right. thinking back to myself 30 years ago, i think of how lonely my life would have been had i aborted my son, my life would not have been quite as rich or rewarding. children sometimes changes people for the better. forget that jerk who is just praying u abort the child. just because u have no hubby, and no man who is willing to step up to the plate and be a man , doesn't mean u should abort your child, who is part of u, and u will feel sorrow in the future if u do this.

Answer 4

So he wanted to have a child with you, you got pregnant and now he won't talk to you? Cripes what a jerk.

I'm sorry you are going through such a terrible thing. I would seek a counselor if possible, or some caring friend to talk to. Make sure it's someone you trust.

I do not think it would be out of bounds for this man to pay half the cost of the abortion, but that's just my opinion.

Try next time to pick someone willing to marry you first before getting pregnant. If they won't sign on the dotted line to marriage, then they probably won't stick around and be a good father to the child either.

Answer 5

Ultimately, the decision is yours, but you have to think about both the short term and the long term effects of an abortion.
In as far as contract workers go, child support is difficult, but not impossible. Sometimes, if a person's job record is spotty or unclear (say, for instance, he works on contract or is self-employed), the judge can order a bond to be posted that would be a set number of years for the support.
I'm not going to say you're a fool for letting him try to "impregnate" you, but the best advice is probably the same advice I give to a lot of guys who had girls say "they won't ask for child support". Do not trust anybody. They might not be there, the child will be.

Answer 6

abortion is a very difficult decision. under the circumstances you describe i understand . pregnancy and actually having a baby takes a very special committment that is hard to accept. It sounds like he just isn';t ready to accept the responsibility of being a father. do what you need to for yourself and get some counseling to help you deal with the mixed emotions you will be dealing with. the old saying , BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. STILL HOLDS. good luck

Answer 7

You need to accept responsibility for your own actions. You could have taken precautions to assure that you didn't get pregnant. Its your body and you control what happens to it. I think that you should carry the baby to term and offer it up for adoption. Adoption is a such a loving act that you can do not only for your child but for people who are unable to have their own children. Consider your options. You know that you can get childsupport out of him, the government will make him pay you and if he does under the table business, he'll get caught. But you need to make a choice. Abortion is the easy route, and if you really feel that is your only option, then do it, seek counceling and heal yourself. But seriously, consider your options.

Answer 8

My husband fell in need of my expectancies besides. We were attempting for about seven months, and as quickly as I have been given the useful he does no longer have faith the HPT till a blood try shown it. whilst the blood try shown it 2 days later he replaced into like "wow, we actually did it". i replaced into hoping for some leaping or a yay! or some thing extra desirable than "wow" and going approximately his business organisation. i for my area slightly offended at first, as a results of fact of how upset i replaced into. I could say however, he's long gone to each appointment and he's extremely being concerned and watchful over me and has his physique of techniques as to all the failings he desires to get performed around our domicile in the past the toddler is born. he's no longer an outwardly emotional person, so i think of I predicted too plenty out of him! After the frustration of his reaction however i could no longer wait to tell somebody who might leap up and down with me and be as excited as i replaced into. that's what sisters are for!!!!!

Answer 9

well you know what you should do

He really should support your decision either way. He DID say he wanted to be a daddy though. If he is a good man maybe he would give you some money for the baby. Especially if you can prove its really his.

Answer 10

Unfortunately an abortion would probably be the best thing for the baby because you are obviously a moron. Why the hell would you let some loser knock you up after 4 months of dating. Get a clue.