He passed away suddenly (died on the spot) in a terrible car accident a few wks ago. I am the last to see & tok to him that night and we could not even manage to recognise him as he was being burnt to death. I am feeling sad cause the way he died and felt v lost lately. Just cant seem to move on. Can anyone nice enough to share your similar encounters with me?? And how to move on??
2006-12-03 13:33:36 · 10 answers · asked by Tulip P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FYI, I m NOT JOKING ... I even thought of leaving with him as he was the 1 & only man that could prove to me that he TRUELY loves me and willing to do anything for me which is why I am feeling so terrible now ...
2006-12-03 14:10:09 · update #1
Same to me.
I have a girlfriend passed away a few years ago. We have been together for a very-very-very long time. Before I graduated from Polytechnic she was aready with me, she accompanied me even when I enlisted to do NS.
She passed away in SGH. At that time, her siblings were there. I accompanied her but she never woke up. I nearly gone berserk and wanted to jump from SGH. I cried and cried. Even at her funeral, I don't dare to walk near to her coffin.
It's a long story how I overcome this depression. I went backpacking alone to many countries.
If you can read my SPACE blog, you will know how much I loved her. Up till now, I still very upset. Anway, I still missed her. I missed her very much.
I can understand your feeling deeply because I am still struggling right now.
2006-12-04 03:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though people close to me have died, I have never experienced losing someone in such a tragic way. I am sorry that you have to go through such a traumatic event. You should definately allow yourself ample time to grieve. You can't expect to snap your fingers and be completly healed over night. Grief is a long process. Counseling may be something you want to look into to help you cope with your loss, or perhaps talking to a close friend may even help you feel better. Again, I am sorry, and I hope you find the help you are looking for.
2006-12-03 13:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tulip, there is a whole process to grieving and there are lots of support groups out there who can help you to navigate each stage.
Perhaps you should try writing him a letter since you probably didn't get to say everything to him that you would have liked. This can help you to resolve the unresolved issues you may have had with him.
You could also undertake some sort of charitable work in his honor. It would help you keep busy so you do not dwell on sadness, and it would help you to honor his memory.
These are my ideas. I hope they help.
2006-12-03 13:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lord, I'm so sorry. My boyfriend was brutally murdered September of 2005, he was stabbed seven time. I'm not completely over him but everyone began telling me to move on as soon as weeks after his death.Ppl are gonna tell u they know how u feel, when they really don't but trust me; I know exactly how u feel. I don't know what to tell u, but if u are anything like me I used the Internet to reach out for help and advice to tough questions. Right here on yahoo answers I asked alotta questions regarding his death and other things I discovered after his death.Click my user name and browse threw my question for more answers from the wonderful ppl on yahoo answers. If there is anyway I can possible help don't be afraid to drop and e-mail Raenesia_j@yahoo.com to me we can threw this 2gether, I'm in the same situation.
2006-12-03 14:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Gifted and Gracious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to take heed to about your loss. at the starting up this became no longer your fault. He made the alternative to take his personal life. i imagine that counseling and a help crew will be powerful to you. it would want to assist workout consultation those thoughts. you're literally not responsible for his life or the options he made. I pray that you get the help that's good to bypass on exceeded this tragedy. He nevertheless lives on by your daughter. Lean on acquaintances and family contributors. it receives extra useful in time. I promise.
2016-11-30 02:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my sister five years ago to cancer and it has been really hard to go on without her but I knew that she would want me to go on. How I dealt with my loss I allowed myself to grieve for her as long as I needed to and I remembered the times we had growing up and even the fights we had . I still miss her and I always will, but I had to realize that no matter what there was nothing I could do to change what had happened. Just take time and grieve and cry and then remember. In time you will smile when you remember him and then that's when you know its time to move on.
2006-12-03 13:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, you need to grieve. give yourself time to be upset, to cry and be depressed. But try to stay positive too. Im not sure how long it will take you to recover from the trauma of this, but it depends on how long you dated how strong your relationship was, if you loved him etc. Maybe you can talk to a therapist about it to get it out too, stay active and continue to see friends, after a while when you think your ready date again, often. have fun! and know he would have wanted you to be happy ok>? good luck
2006-12-03 13:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sorry for you the way that i think that you could move on is try to forget about him and try to find another path to your life.Hope you will feel better soon.
2006-12-03 13:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Eyore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time honey .Give it time to sink in!
2006-12-03 13:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop bullshitting
2006-12-03 13:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋