can you please explain your answer? ive been chatting online for over three years and had lots of online relationships. i used to think it was great but now im dating a guy im not physically attracted to. i told myself i would love him no matter what, but when he finally showed me a pic of him, i wasnt attracted to him at all. i dont want to be stuck with someone im not even attracted to. ive given up on online dating. i believe if you want to find your perfect soul mate, choose someone you know for sure that youre going to love. i believe the feelings are false online. what do you think?
2006-12-03 13:08:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think that they are illusions because it's so hard to fail in love without the initial attraction that you have when you first meet someone.
2006-12-03 13:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Bebe1016 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, if you are not physically attracted to someone at first, you can grow into it. Other times, you can't. I'm not sure about online dating, because I've dated a lot of guys who can talk online no problem, but when you actually go out with them, they can't hold a conversation, and it's just awkward. Keep looking for someone, but don't just look online. Online dating can be a starter or a helpful tool, but YOU and the person you are dating need to have an actual, not online, connection for it to be love.
2006-12-03 13:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have feelings for people online. it is just so hard to know if they (the person) are real or not. you can never know for sure if someone is lieing to you or if they are being genuinely honest. I honestly do not know how people can date online. i mean no matter what, in order to really get to know someone you have to spend time with them physically so that you can determine and understand how they react and will react to situations. your best bet is if you find that you can chat easily with someone online, keep it at that. a friendship. i have met people offline and for the most part they are cool. i am not saying that it is okay to do that, because ovbiously that can be very dangerous. but just remember you only live once and dont be afraid to take chances and get messy!lol. and if it doesnt work out then you can Always find someone else.
2006-12-03 13:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by indigo_grape4_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it CAN work but I think it USUALLY doesnt...at least for people I know. I have a cousin who devoted herself to online dating services...5 or 6 failed and BADLY failed at that relationships later shes no better. My sister also tried it only by talking to a guy her out of town friends knew and she'd never met. They 'dated' for 2 weeks then she met him...and didnt like him LOL dumped his butt the next day. Ive rarely tried it and when I did it wasnt in sincerity...Id just kinda laugh at the loosers who would PM you on Yahoo or AIM and say after 3 general sentences 'will you be my gf?' Course Im a bad person to talk to on all this :p I dont believe in silly casual dating in any form or way... i don't really understand the dating sites either, or meeting someone by IM 8-) but somewhere like usm, where you kind of 'get to know' the person first - that's different. So... like i origionally said It could work, but for younger people like myself.. it didn't turn out that great.. plus we were like 3000 miles away from each other.. some things just can't work out that way. So it was ugly.. but I can look back on it now and realize why things went the way they did. Plus... alot of people use fake photos of themselves! So just be careful ok? Good luck and I know ull make the right choice!
2006-12-03 13:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by C.J. W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you have to be very careful with online relationships, but I met my fiance through Match.com a couple of years ago. I think the trick is to take the relationship offline after a few weeks. Of course, it's really important to be careful of your safety and meet in a public place at first and all that. Different things work for different people and I wish you all the best in your search for a soulmate!
2006-12-03 13:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings can be real, but you have to experience the person in reality to know if the feelings will grow and last.
Too many important dimensions missing online. It is simply a start.
2006-12-03 13:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by zen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
imy last 2 bfs were found through online dating my ex turned out to be compleaty different offline to online he seemed sweet online and was a dick offline and my current bf seems more sweet offline as online he seems to treat me like his best mate not gf but offline he make me feel on top of the world so u may fall for sumone that seem oppersite offline to online so beware
2006-12-03 13:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything on-line is made-up, its all a made-up world. You should not have been dissapointed in the way he looks, think about how he made you feel while you were chatting with him. If he made you feel good and alive, you should have went for it!
2006-12-03 13:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything online is plain false.
2006-12-03 13:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bunch of mess. You never know what your going to get. I have never communicated with anyone in that manner I think it would be too freaky for me.
2006-12-03 13:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋