How can someone overcome the curse of passiveness?

Question

Whenever someone makes me upset, everything speeds up and i end up walking away not saying anything and then always wondering what if. I can never think of any to say to them in the moment. I do not want to be like this for the rest of my life, what can I do to make myself more aggressive in terms of "not taking sh*t from others"?

Answer 1

I think assertive is far more effective than aggressive.
When you are in a situation that makes you clam up and want to run, just tell the person you need 5 minutes to get your thoughts together, and then respond according to your intuition. say a mini affirmation to help you find the right words to express yourself. Something like: "I have opinions and I can express them in a positive and calm way" is a good way to prepare your mind and soul for effective communication when you feel like running and not saying anything.
Write about your passiveness and tell yourself what you want to be rather than what you are right now, when it comes to telling people what you feel.
Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Sometimes walking away is the only way I can keep my mouth from going into overdrive.It's not such a bad thing. How you handle things after that is what counts! The next time you see the person that offended you, ask yourself, is this something that I can deal with and not lose my cool. Then, calmly remind this person of the incident and what they said or did. Tell them, they hurt your fellings and it was disrespectful.Remind them that you don't treat them that way, and that in the future they are not to behave towards you that way. If they ridicule you for making a stand for your self, then walk away and keep away from them and their hurtful attitude. Just remember, that not taking ^%$#**&&, does not mean being mean or nasty yourself. Just stand up for your self. Best wishes!

Answer 3

Heres an idea, just don't take **** from others! stick up for yourself!