My sister-n-law just got home from a C-section. She was burping the baby and watching tv. Next thing she felt the baby fall. She had fallen asleep I am sure to exhaustion and pain medication. The baby is fine. Checked by emergency room etc. She however is a mess and keeps chastizing herself as a bad mother. This is her first child. Her own mom died 21 months ago. She is 25. She feels alone. I am trying to reassure her she is not the only one accidents happen too. Thank god the baby is fine. The er docs did find that she had jaundice with high levels and took immediate action to correct that. Maybe fate brought them to find the jaundice because it is apparently pretty bad, though why the hospital released with no notification of possible jaundice is another question. Please send me your stories so I can show she is not the only one that accidents happen too.
2006-12-03 12:35:20 · 12 answers · asked by Auntie D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This happened to my husband. I was so pissed! He fell asleep with the baby in his arm unsupported. I was awakened by the baby crying...I could have smacked the living crap out of him, but I picked up my baby and shoved the coffee table right into his shins!
2006-12-03 12:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Accidents will happen, that is why they are called accidents. My daughter fell off my bed, not once but twice... I'm really NOT a bad mother. I promise!!
Both times it was because I had to pee like a maniac...
The first time, she was only 2 months old and magically started rolling... something I had not seen her do... The second time, I thought I had sufficient pillows around her, barricading her in the exact center of my queen bed... I'll be danged if that little critter didn't start crawling... BACKWARDS!! And off she went. She is/was totally fine. Thank goodness. Needless to say, she stays on the floor from now on.
Crazy things will happen, and as your friend gets more comfortable with being a mom, she will realize that. She can only do the best that she can do. Don't expect miracles. I'm sure if her mom were still alive, there would be some pretty funny stories about her falling on her little head.
Plus with all the post-pregnancy hormones... she is being too hard on herself. She just needs to take a deep breath... and relax. It will get better. Really!! :)
2006-12-03 20:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by tillah519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it about 2 weeks after my baby girl was born. I also had a c-section so was on some pain meds. It was about 2-3 in the morning and I was feeding and burping her and she had fallen asleep and so had I. All of a sudden I was awoken by her crying. I felt so horrible for falling asleep that I cried for a good hour and I could not even hold her because I felt like I was going to hurt her again. But it made me much more aware of what could happen if I fall asleep for even a second. Please tell her that she is not a bad mother, shes not perfect. It takes time to cope with a baby. Accidents do happen, and she is not a bad mother!
2006-12-03 21:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by leigh_ann_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not a bad parent!!! I assure it. She's just a tired parent!
My daughter is now a month old, she and I have both fallen asleep during feeding time more times then I would like to admit to. Thankfully I have never dropped her or any of the sort. But I still feel really bad!
Now my mother in law... she went to take her into the bathroom for bath time and bumped her head on the door frame.
My husband wasn't paying attention and almost let her drop.
Then one morning as I was fixing to go lay down for four or five hours of undisturbed sleep, I hand my husband our daughter, and she slipped gave me a heart attack, and I thanked the gods that my husband has good reflexes.
Every parent has their moment. Every child has their moment.
My ex roomates daughter fell off of the exam table in the doctors office and had a incredibly large think fist sized goose egg on her head. She is perfectly fine and a bit of trouble maker at three!
It will be okay!
2006-12-04 03:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by dragonbloodus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even the most protective parents find that they accidently injure their child is similar situations. My sister-in-law had her newborn on a changing table (that had sides and everything.) As she was changing her baby girl, the baby wet on the new diaper. She reached over to get another diaper, and before she knew it, her baby had somehow rolled off the table and on to the floor. She felt absolutely horrible. I would just reassure your sister-in-law that this happens to almost everyone and every mother has the same feeling as she does. Coupled with the fact that she just lost her mother and feels along in this it will make the feelings worse for her.
2006-12-04 00:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Serena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness tell her she is in no way a bad mom! I fell asleep so many times holding my daughter I wondered how I never DID drop her. I have a very precocious 3 year old who has lived through 3 calls to poison control and 2 ER visits and for each of those I blamed myself for days. Luckily it's only the Mommy that gets traumatized and the babies are over it almost instantly! I reassure my friends by telling them that our kids are going to blame us for a lot someday, and nowhere on the list will be the little accidents they had as tikes.
I'm sorry her mom isn't around to reassure her.
2006-12-03 20:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy F 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can help prevent any more of those accidents by piling pillows around you. It happens to everyone, maybe not same scenerio but everyone has a bad story to tell. This is what parenting is all about, you learn as you go and mistakes are made.
My mum fell down some stairs while holding my brother in one hand and pregnant with my sister. They were both fine. Accidents happen all the time. Maybe she needs to have abit more support at home, at least until she feels more confident.
Congrats on baby
2006-12-03 20:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Katie G 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give her even more reassurance. It happens to all new parents at least once. Ansd Im sure if we talked to our parents it happened to us as well. I was like that for a week when my son fell. Have her sit on the floor or use lots of pillows. Tell her shes a great mom and it does get better.
2006-12-03 21:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by treecesherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that has never happened to me, BUT I did whack my babys head up against the door frame when walking into my bedroom. I felt Soooooooo bad, I cried. Accidents happen to everyone and she is in no way a bad mother.
2006-12-03 21:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I've fallen asleep with the baby on the bed (years ago) and woken up to that "Thud" sound followed immediately by a loud cry. The baby was fine and it happen many times. Even with many pillows around the edge, that baby would always find a way to fall off that bed. Funny now, but it wasn't then. But I think babies are resiliant like that. I tell her about it now and even she thinks it's funny. She wants me to tell her the story again & again.
2006-12-03 20:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by kmusmc 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh yeah.I have three kids and my second child I fell asleep with him when he was 3mths. old due to exhaustion,late night feedings and such.. and he fell out of our bed.I freaked out and rushed him to the hospital.He turned out just fine and he is 5 now.The most they were concerned with was him sleeping in the same bed.They say that's not good because you can cause SIDS or accidentally roll over on them.So Learned from that and got him his own bed.But does that make me a bad mom???No... it just made me an uninformed parent,and now I am.Don't worry your going to make plenty of mistakes, you just have to learn from them and try not to repeat them.because there's no such thing as a perfect mom.We all make mistakes.
2006-12-03 20:46:44 · answer #11 · answered by Victoria05 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋