does a person really have to fall all the way before they can pick themselves back up?

Question

every summer i would pick myself back up but then when it comes winter i would always fall and i would always hit rock bottom before i ever pick myself back up its been happening for 3 years. i can never seem to pick myself up before its too late, even if i do sooner or later i will hit rock bottom again.

Answer 1

Rock bottom my friend. Rock bottom.

Answer 2

It depends on their personality and character. I was falling in a very bad way, but I was able to pick myself up before I hit rock bottom. I was one of the lucky ones, or so I thought, but I did the work necessary to pull myself away from the horrible place I was headed for.

Answer 3

Well, it depends on the person. Some people can have a minor slip or setback & learn from it. Others really need to hit bottom to get a wake up call and be motivated to change their lives for the better. I knew someone who was an alcoholic. Each time something would happen (ended up in the hospital, lost his girlfriend etc) he would say "that's it. I've learned my lesson." But he didn't. He would stop drinking for a time and seem to be ok, the girlfriend would take him back. He never lost his job. In a sense, he never learned because he got off too easy. The people at his work were actually very understanding. Maybe it would have been better if they'd fired him, if he lost his apartment, if all his friends abandoned him. Who knows? In AA he heard about people who literally hit rock bottom, they lost everything: job, wife & kids, house and ended up on the street. It wasn't until then that they realized they were destroying themselves & had to stop. But he didn't like AA. He found it too Christian-driven & he was an atheist. He also didn't like admitting he needed help. He'd get cocky & think he could beat it on his own. He was a binge drinker. He could go a while without a drink but then he'd get a craving & couldn't stop. He'd lock himself in his apartment & drink till he passed out. Not show up for work for 3 days etc. He'd get a delivery service to bring him more booze (I think this is evil & should be banned! How can anyone justify selling liquor to an alcoholic in his home & let him drink himself to death?! It's not like ordering a pizza for crying out loud!)

Unfortunately when he hit bottom, it was too late. He went on a binge & never came out of it. They found his body several days later...He didn't mean to end his life. He expected to wake up a few days later like always (his computer was still downloading games. This was not a suicide.) People forget that alcohol is a deadly drug too. You can overdose on it.

Everyone is different. Some people will never make the commitment to change. Others need the harshest reality to wake them up. Some will fall & never pick themselves up. Life presents us with lessons. Whether we choose to learn from them or keep repeating them until they kill us, is up to us.

Answer 4

No. But a lot of people will never relize they need to pick themselves back up and do something different until they fall all the way. My ex got many warning in his young life to change his ways. Countless trips to juvy, withdrawls, friends that would stab him in the back...a daughter he wasn't fit to raise, a loveless relationship with the kid's mom, numbers of people offering him a way out, potential inlaws who got him deeper into drugs, etc. But it took a shot in the head to settle his cocky a** down. yeah, he got shot in the head with a 45 magnum and he still lives. Not as a vegetable, or on a ventilator, but he's paralyzed on his left side, and he's learning to walk again, and aspires to go to school and better himself. It took losing 1/4 of his brain and living, for him to relize that he was put here to do something worthwhile with his life, and God wouldn't take no for an answer.

Answer 5

no. but what is rock bottom anyways. I mean, you can say you were at rock bottom, but surely (most of the time) it could have gotten worse. I guess the bottom is as far as you will let yourself fall before you put your shi* back together.

Answer 6

No--some people can catch themselves and turn it around before the hit face first on the concrete.
But there are people that never learn a lesson, so they have to crash hard before they wake up.

Answer 7

It's more of a sense of realization... Sometimes, when one falls asleep at the wheel, God wakes him/her up in time before he/she REALLY gets hurt... However, sometimes, really getting hurt is necessary to get our FULL ATTENTION...
The point is: He'll get your attention - sooner or later... A clue for the "blondes" among us...? Sooner's better...

Answer 8

Not at all. But for us hard headed and stubborned individuals, sometimes it does take a complete fall for us to see the errors of our ways.

Answer 9

only if you believe that its true.people change for the better all the time.and not all of them hit rock bottom.if you wait because you dont know if you hit rock bottom.you are setting yourself up for more misery.

Answer 10

Thats the way a lot of people end up giving their life to jesus christ