Every day in class she would run up to me telling me what she did with her boy friend the night before. First she said they kissed then took a shower together than she told me that she had sex with her 16 year old boy friend. Should I get help for her keep her secret or what??
2006-12-03 11:57:07 · 25 answers · asked by Zoie M 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
tell her to use condoms, and that her boyfriend could end up in jail for underage sex. But its quite likely she could be making it up
2006-12-03 11:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cate 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
It is unfortunate that at 13 she now might be facing this situation. Sex and pregnancy at any age can be a complicated thing.
Sometimes people are searching for something they are not getting at home from parents and family members, like love and support. Early sex, drug abuse, and gang activity can alot of times be traced back to trouble at home. It sounds like she is actually hurting inside and looking for love from people who she can get it from. Being in the middle, because you are her friend is a hard thing. But if she is your friend then you will do what you think is in her best interest. First find out if she is pregnant, go with her to a family planning clinic where the test is free and confidential.
If she is not pregnant, convince her to at least speak with a family planning counselor about protection, not only against pregnancy but against disease.
At 13, we believe we are invincible. But thousands of graveyards prove we are not.
If she is pregnant, she will have to get some help.
There are options for her. When you say you don't know wether to keep it a secret or not, I am assuming you are speaking of her parent or parents. That is a difficult decision for you to make, and if she is your friend, you must do what is right for her.
She will be scared and confused, and though you are a friend, you can be there for support but the problem will be too heavy for you to deal with on your own. So whatever you decide, telling, or keeping quiet, try not to let guilt be a factor in either decision.
She needs to realize all the things that can happen to her at such a young age with what she is doing.
To be honest with you, she may never stop having sex, and she may never take your advice on using protection, but you can talk to her about it, and support her if she needs to talk.
Having sex at 13 is just not good for you emotionally, or physically. You can support her, but you can't make her decisions for her. And if you find that the relationship you have with her is hurting you because of what she is doing, then you also have the option of explaining to her that what she is doing is hurting your relationship.
There is no easy answer for this one, but her parents should be aware of what she is doing and intervene. Sometimes parents know and do nothing.
Sometimes, they don't know until things like unwanted pregnancy occur. But she needs help, and it is help you probably cannot give her.
Talk to your own parents, explain the situation to them and see if they can get you clear about what your role is and is not.
More than likely, your parents will be glad you came to them with such an important dilemma. More than likely they can help you decide what to do.
Try it. Good luck. And hopefully your friend will realize what a good friend you are.
2006-12-03 20:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she had sex, doesn't mean she's pregnant. Ask her if she's being careful. Ask her if she's using birth control and condoms (note, even if she's on birth control, she should be using condoms). Then ask her questions about what she would do if she did get pregnant. Would her boyfriend stand by her? Would her parents help her? What would she do about school and her future?
Sex is good when both people in the relationship are ready for it, but if she's not ready and she's not taking care of herself, she's going to wind up with a baby at 14.
2006-12-03 20:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well in that case its a little bit difficult for her! yes! she might get pregnant! especially is she's not careful with it! your question is if your keeping her secret or not! your her best friend right? the best you can do now is observed! you don't need to tell everybody about what happen to her!perhaps if she's NOT pregnant give her a little bit of inspiration for not doing it again !because if she do it again a big chances of getting pregnant and if she's pregnant the best you can also is ask her first what she like to do with he baby! support her and at this moment you can tell that to the parents !ok!
2006-12-03 20:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Naneth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good friend and try to arrange other things that you two, as friends, can do together. Go to the mall, movies. If at any time you feel she is in danger seek help. Try to google "kidshelpphone" they might have some great advice. Just don't let her reckless behavious rub off on you. Be smart!!
2006-12-03 20:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by helpmeplease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is so stupid taking a chance like that at her age. But you aren't responsible for her. If she finds out you told then she may hate you and she needs her friends right now. And I don't know what you can do right now that she can't lie about to get out of. But, beg her to use condoms!! If she really is pregnant then she needs to tell her mom. If she won't then you tell yours.
Her 16 year old bf is sick for being with a 13 year old!!
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And for the people complaining about kids using condoms, it's time to open your eyes. They are having sex, whether or not you want them to. So at least they are safer from STD's and we won't be paying our taxes to raise their children.
2006-12-03 20:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is serious, well if I were her I would tell her parents, do they even know what she is up to! Anyway you are her best friend if she hasn't got pregnant yet please stop her before it is too late! and if she is get help fast and tell someone but it has to be the right person! Good Luck!
2006-12-03 20:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is very lucky no to be my daughter; if she was, then she would have to leave my house in 3 months!!!! Anway, going back to your question, YES.... get her some HELP; eventually her parents will find out; hence, she needs help from her PARENTS....... What has this world come to?........ Hope this helps, Take care.
2006-12-03 20:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_m_espana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay why is a 13 year old having sex with a 16 year old
2nd please tell someone
but find out if she is or not find out
if shes missed a period cause if so then she needs to tell her mom or you do someone does
2006-12-03 20:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school nurse or counselor. She is under the age of consent and needs guidance. Be her friend and tell an adult.
2006-12-03 20:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can thank the liberals for this, and probably her parents who must not have a clue.
Case in point - the answer directly below. Imagine telling a 13 year old girl to use condoms! Liberalism is a mental aberration.
So many people on here are so unqualified to answer, that sometimes I think this board should be shut down.
2006-12-03 19:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋