if you were a mom and your 17 year old daugter got pregnant how would you react?

Question

if you were a mom and your 17 year old daugter got pregnant how would you react?

Answer 1

The same way my mom did. I would hug her and cry with her and then be excited and do what I could to help her cope and be excited, too. What's done is done. Life goes on.

Answer 2

I would treat my daughter the same way my mother treated me .I had my first daughter at 17 ,I'm now 23 almost 24 in January,and I have three daughters all together.
But when I got pregnate with my first,my mother didn't feel ashamed or upset,I mean yeah I was young ,but atleast I wasn't 13 for cryin' out loud!I was aproaching adult hood any way....
My mother cried happy tears when she watched my daughter come out,it was a joy to her,because she knew that THAT litttle baby is her GRANDAUGHTER you know?
And too...you got to understand that I did and still do have my husband with me who supports me to the fullest and our three daughters.
I thank GOD for that miracle!
I really don't think ANY mother should feel ashamed if their 17 year old daughter gets pregnate,there are millions of 17 year olds who become pregnate every day that the world spins,you know?
Think about it ,a LITTLE BABY is a GIFT FROM GOD! Seriously! A baby is a precious life that deserves to live!
Lots of love to you,and God Bless You being if your the "mom" or the daughter. Take Care.

Answer 3

i would urge her to do what she thinks is best but i would support her either way. Id want her to have an abortion because I would want her to go to college etc..but i probably would have a hard time even suggesting it outright because i would not want that hanging over my head if she chose to have the baby. I am saVing for her college fund already so id make sure that she goes to school and makes a decent living even if it means taking care of her baby more then most grandparents would. I would love her etiher way and i would never push my beliefs on her becuse if i pushed her to have an abortion and it killed her inside then i would regret that forever...id rather support her decision but let her know the reality of what having a baby is aswell so she could make a somewhat educated decision.

Answer 4

well i guess the same way my mom did when she found out. she probably wanted to know where did she go wrong. and that she didnt do her best. But after all those emtions die down she was happy. she helped me through it. she was a terrific mom. and now she is a proud grandma of a 9yr. i mean of course she was upset, who wouldnt of been. i mean her 17 yr old just pushed a side all of things she wanted to do b/c she was pregnant. but i think in the end what could she do, she stuck by me. and i thank god she was there for me. and i will be there for my daughter also.

Answer 5

I did get pregnant at 17 and although now i know it was a stupid thing to do my mom's reaction was great! I know she wishes it didn't happen but she supported me and any decision i would make.
She also spoke to my boyfriend(now husband of 10 years) and said she'd help not financially but emotionally.

i know because i had her support it gave me strength and also set an example of the kind of mom i want to be to my kids.

Now as a mom of 3 i pray that my kids don't become teen parents because i know it's hard, and i was fortunate because i had a good man. But i think if they feel like they can count on me they will talk to us before making any decisions that would forever change their lives.

Answer 6

I'd feel like I got punched in the stomach. Then I'd be upset. Then I'd take a deep breath and say, "OK, now what?" I'd ask her what she wanted to do. Keep & raise the baby, put it up for adoption, or have an abortion. I'd support her as best I could with whatever decision she made.

Answer 7

I would encourage her to place the baby for adoption. It is a loving, responsible and unselfish way to benefit all who are involved. The birthmom (and dad too) get the benefit of not being sucked in to parenthood at an age where they feel too young and unprepared, they get to finish out school and prepare better for their future. Plus, the adoptive couple gets a beautiful sweet baby to love and raise, and the baby gets the benefit of a loving, stable home life with parents who are emotionally and financialy able to provide for the baby. There is a website I would visit to help her select an adoptive family for her baby. It's www.itsaboutlove.org.

Answer 8

i'm very sorry to hear this...but the truth is that there is many ways that you can react. many parents usually freak out and blame themselves and others choose to be in denial and try to totally ignore the fact that their daughter is pregnant. its okay to be frustrated and angry but it won't make the situation any better. you need to sit with your child and talk to her and even though she is in a bad situation now... its not the end of the world... so you need to guide her so that she won't make anymore mistakes.

Answer 9

try to be open and understanding calmly explain your position on the matter and allow her to voice her side this way your relationship with your daughter stays intact and she'll feel that she can talk with you and not like you hate her. I'm sure she's under enough pressure already.

Answer 10

I would be angry because she would have known better because I would have taught her to know better. I would never suggest she go through with a pregnancy but if that's the choice she makes then she will have to deal with it.