I know I am going to have to report this to the police as I can not live with what she has done. She is nearly 18 and started a fire outside her cousins house as she is in a dispute with her cousin over a boyfriend. She is also self harming, and this seems to be a constant cry for attention, how ever you have to take that seriously. I know she needs medical help and we are seeing Doctors and counsellors, but this does not seem to be working. Its just getting worse. I am worried now that she will be put in prison for me reporting her to the police for the arson attack and although no one was hurt, she does need to face the consequences for her actions. What should I do? I am so worried.
2006-12-03 11:52:32 · 16 answers · asked by kat.hamilton@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with the anonymous tip line. Excellent idea.
You're right, she does need to face the consequences of her actions. Perhaps now she will see what she is really doing, to herself and her family and she will want help.
If she does go to prison, is that really a bad thing? (I dont mean it the way it came out) but she will have good care, she will be safe, and she cant hurt herself or others. She can be observed and perhaps find out exactly what her issues are and get on fixing them.
It may not be the greatest way to get on the road to good mental health, but its definately a good start.
Best of luck, you sound like a great mom, she's lucky to have you.
2006-12-03 12:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i'm so sorry your going through that. although you dont want to see her go to jail this may be your only option so she can get her life straight. My brother is just like that we finally had to let him sit out in jail before he started growing up a little. She is very very lucky she didnt hurt herself or someone else in the process of starting a fire. she really does need some help but if counselors and doctors arent getting to her then jail may be her only option. Let her sit it out for a little while. If you dont report her and someone finds out you knew about it and didnt tell you may be in troube yourself. The right thing to do is turn her in that way you know she is in a safe place and they make sure they dont harm thereselves or anyone else. good lucky you are a very loving mom to put up with all of this. You are in my prayers.
2006-12-03 12:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless someone else knows that she started the fire. I wouldn't report it. Who wants to send their daughter to prison? If someone were hurt or killed that is a different story. Let the police come to you if it's being investigated - tell them the truth if they do and hire her a lawyer. She will never forgive you if you turn her in. She obviously has problems. But none that prison or a permant record will help.
2006-12-03 11:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chula 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If different instructors have not been fired for this, then of direction she should not be fired. i imagine that Ms. Hart should be reprimanded for permitting a baby see her reveal her affections to her significant different no matter if it became male or female, yet no longer fired. And if it became only a mild %. i do not see the huge deal. yet a touch extra if it became like heavy make out consultation.... yet there truly isn't any clarification for someone to pick to fireside a woman for kissing her significant different if heterosexual instructors are not fired for kissing their companions.
2016-11-30 02:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this puts you in a tough position because she is your daughter. However, since you are going to report her anyway, maybe you could ask the judge if he could recommend that she get help for her problem in lieu of jail time. Maybe if you explain her behavior to him (and get a good attorney) this could actually turn into sort of a good thing for her. That would be helpful to her and not as bad for you either. Best of luck to both of you.
2006-12-03 11:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a bottom line to all her actions. there might be something she's supressing inside that she portrays through her violent acts. talk to her about it....and if that doesnt work, you should turn her in so she learns from her mistakes and gets a reality check. maybe she doesnt realize the severity of her actions. goodluck
2006-12-03 11:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. It's hard for a parent to deal with something like this. You're so worked up and confused you don't even realize you answered your own question.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-03 12:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is already beyond parental discipline. She is an adult and needs professional help. If she does a little jail time, it might be better than winding up dead in the gutter.
2006-12-03 11:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by know_it_all_NOT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi!
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2006-12-03 12:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
the police have a anonymous tip line you can report her without her knowing
2006-12-03 11:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋