i like a dude, (not saying his name) and my mom has never given me "the talk" yet... i know about it, cuz all my friends sumtimes talk about it... i am pretty sure that this guy likes me too, *because he keeps on smiling at me, but is shy to talk to me, plus more* but i am not sure when i am alowed to date. i can not ask my mom, cuz then she will get into this huge conversation about boys, and all that stuff... plus she will look at me different every day... wut do i do?
2006-12-03 11:43:11 · 4 answers · asked by Tarah U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your mother. She is a great source of information. She will probably be happy you trusted her enough to confide in her. Asking when you're allowed to date isn't a big deal. It's not like you have to tell her your pregnant. By the way, if you do get pregnant, tell your mom. Anyhow, you should let your mother talk to you about boys and the birds and the bees. My mother never did and at 18 I had a kid because I thought I knew all I needed to know because "all my friends sumtimes talk about it." Don't be naive, talk to your mom.
2006-12-03 13:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, I think that you should be sure that that boy shares the same feelings as you do. I would start hanging out with him first, see what he is like and what does he like to do. If you like him, and there is a mutual affection between the two of you, then I can say that you guys can start thinking about going out together; however, this may be a tad too early- you haven't stated your age, therefore I don't know if you're 13 or 18, which are two totally different ages, and you know this to be true. As, for your mother- I'm sure that if you will talk to her, she will appriciate you more rather than sneaking out to see the guy. Yes, she will freak at first because she'll realize you're not a child anymore, and that time passes by too fast, but she will have that "talk" with you, and she will give you the "interogation room" talk about that guy that you like since this is simply her job- it is her job to make sure that you are going out with someone who will treat you right and someone who's worthy of you. I'm sure that you'll do the same thing for your children. In short, even if she freaks, she freaks not because you are a "bad person" but because she is worried. You have to realize that no matter how bad things get, she will be the one that is going to be there for you at the end of the day, whether you did something bad or just asked for her advice. Go talk to her, you will regret it if you don't.
I hope this helped. Good Luck.
2006-12-03 19:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by LaLaLand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it a secret from your mom, she has no control on the people u date
2006-12-03 19:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with him. What she doesn't know won't hurt her and if she does find out it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
2006-12-03 19:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by figojonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋