My friend have become very close over the past year even though she went behind my back and kissed my boyfriend. I forgave her and even thanked her for showing me I couldn't trust him, but I do still resent her and I feel bad about that. I don't want to hate her but she has been mean to me lately. She is constantly picking fights and when I say anything she tries to point out how I am in the wrong. She knows she was wrong to kiss my boyfriend and she even told me later that she liked him even though she knew I was in LOVE with him. I still am even though we aren't together anymore. I don't think I want to be friends with her anymore and I feel terrible about that. Am I wrong to not want to talk to her like a used to and if I 'm not how do I stop talking to her with out hurting her feelings?
2006-12-03 11:36:43 · 5 answers · asked by Penguin_girl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow, sweetie you're being too nice! this girl is not your friend, so you need to stand up for yourself and get her out of your life fast, remember, some friends are just not worth all the drama.
2006-12-06 11:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by luxxx ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the biggest issue with any relationship, I am a criminal psychology major at school not that it helps here..... but, my best friend and my ex girlfriend whom i was in love with hooked up while we were definitely in love and i have talked to him many times since although we are no longer friends. Sometimes people deserve second chances but they need to earn them. Cut her and your ex bf off you will learn over time if either of them belong in your life. It took me another relationship 5 months down the line and 20 other friends to realize i made the right choice to leave these two people behind and move on with my life
2006-12-03 19:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by mschultz00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a real friend would not have done that. a real man in love with you would not have done that either. i know hoe you feel, i know that your hurt, and yes it takes a long while to heal past wounds. can you forgive her? do you even want to forgive her? i know if my best friend did that to me i would never speak to her again. take some time to think about this and don't make any fast decisions you might regret. just lean on some other friends and try to cope with what happend. i know you probably wake up thinking about this and sometimes it may seem surreal. but trust me you will get through it and in time you will know what to say who to forgive or not to forgive. i really hope everyhting turns out ok for you. the best of luck .
2006-12-03 20:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by spicysaucylatina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
This is a very tough question!
It depends on how you look at it.
However, your friend isn't a true friend, that is my oppinion. Write down on a piece of paper the pros and cons of her beeing yur friend - be realistic about it. If I ere you, depending on how long it's been since she kissed your boyfriend and al of this stuff started going on, I'd start giving her the cold shoulder for a while and see if she notices - if she does, be honest with her about your feelings!
It is best to be honest - maybe she is now insecure with herself.
Good luck
2006-12-03 19:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw her because she will most likely do the same thing again. She probably thinks you some soft little pusssy because she is kissing your man, and your the one who feels bad that she did it not her, Girl get a back bone stop being such a wuss. stop letting this girl punk you. Are you gonna weight til she sleeps with your next boyfriend, yeah he was wrong for kissing her but she was wrong for doing it to her friends man.
2006-12-03 19:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by D. A. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋