She tells the kids not to tell me where they are on their weekend with her because she is afraid I will call the police. She is in violation of the divorce decree by taking them out of town to her boyfriends and having them all sleep over. The children are small, ages, 6,11 and 13. The 11 year old is particularly upset because he does not want to get his mom in trouble. I told him this is an adult situation and he is not to be concerned. It is not a good idea that the kids sleep over his house without my knowledge plus it is in violation of the court order.The order gives me the right to know where they are when they are not with me. I continually tell her to please behave but she never listens. When is it time to have the kids taken out of the house by the state? They are under such mental anguish........
2006-12-03 11:25:05 · 6 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there a valid reason as to why you are so controlling? Or are you just a controller? Do you tell your ex where YOU are every time you have the kids? I doubt it.
2006-12-03 11:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by silverside 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So far you have given no evidence that the court order says she can not take the children out of town. All you've said is that the court order says you have to know where they are. Whehter you like it or not that doesn't mean she can't take them out of town. Probably the reason she tells the kids not to say anything to you is your reaction right here, childish and immature. Unless you have a specific order that says these children are not to be taken out of town to another man's home then you have nothing but jealousy backing you up. I doubt the children are under all that much "mental anguish" from her, it's probably YOU causing it with your jealousy. Get over yourself, your marriage is over, your wife has the right to have her children with her even if she is seeing someone other than you. Yes she should tell you where the children are going to be, NO you don't have the right to keep her from taking them with her.
2006-12-03 19:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex obviously does not share your moral values. Do not take her to court (this would be a waste of money) You will never get her to comply with every detail of your divorce. Stop torturing your kids with this. Make it as easy as possible for your children. Do not question their where abouts every second they are not with you (since you really can not control this anyways) You should set the example of having some morals. By making your home the peaceful home, your children will ask the courts to change their custody to yours when they are old enough to do so (this is the easier least expensive way to get your kids back in a healthy setting) One by one they will come back to you.
2006-12-03 19:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I read in your post (and between the lines), you are putting your kids into the middle of this situation. Please do not do this.
If you have valid concerns on the welfare of your children, contact your attorney.
I truly understand where you are coming from--really, as I have been there. But keep in mind, no matter what your feelings are for your ex, your children still love her. That is their mother. Don't put them in the position of having to tattle on her.
2006-12-04 00:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, because it sounds like she is draging the kids along with her, and doesn't care about what it's doing to the kids. Sorry to hear that your divorced, but I think you should look into sole custody.
2006-12-03 19:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
now is the time to have them taken out....get yourself back to court now...you need to protect your children
2006-12-03 19:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋