but he really don't..we've going out for about two months now but he only seen one side to me..i am so shy around him.. how can i open up..i know on his mspace he not really claiming me because he saying that he's looking for a ablah blah girl but it's funny cauz am all that blah blah but i just can't be myself yet..it takes me a real long time to open to a person..but am everything he wants but i just can't think of a way to bring it alll out............help
2006-12-03 11:11:48 · 8 answers · asked by Am so Curious 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Hmm.......first you need to look at what kind of relationship both of you think your in. You say both of you have been in a relationship for two months yet he isn't claiming you on his myspace page. If your together then he wouldn't still be looking for that blah blah blah kinda girl. From the start of the relationship if you couldn't be your true self then that gut feeling should have gone off. Being comfortable and free to be yourself is a clear sign that this guy is cool. You need re-evaluate what type of relationship your in and how this guy really makes you feel. It does take time to open up to a someone new. Not being you isn't right period.
2006-12-03 11:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by giya_98 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's maybe something wrong with his attitude toward you that makes you uncomfortable. Contrary to the person on here who says "its your problem", I don't think it is. I think there's something about your boyfriend that is the problem.
For example, why is he on MySpace talking about what he's looking for in a girlfriend? What must that make you feel like? Obviously, you're not going to be comfortable around someone who does that.
If he were really right for you you would not feel the least bit uncomfortable just being yourself. Don't do what so many young (and not so young) women do and question what you are doing wrong when, in fact, you're dealing with someone who is making you feel unsure of yourself.
2006-12-04 03:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not long at all. You might need longer to get to know him. If you are comfortable around him for now let things unfold naturally and enjoy every stage of your acquaintance.
Also you don't want to give away too much in case he does not work out. Good luck.
2006-12-03 19:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he says he is looking for a girl then you aren't his girlfriend. Maybe you can't be yourself because you know he is only using you while he is looking for someone else.
2006-12-03 19:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by honey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL HOW LONG DO YOU PLAN TO WAIT .THIS MAY SOUND HARSH BUT YOU HAVE TO SH-- OR GET OFF THE POT. IF YOU DON'T DO SOMETHING SOON . YOU WILL LOSE HIM . HOPE THIS GIVES YOU SOME INCENTIVE....
2006-12-03 19:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are stuck or saving yourself for somebody or something, and you know you are all that but can't even show it, its not his problem, its yours
2006-12-03 19:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so hard on yourself. realize it takes tI'me and im sure he likes you enough to understand that.
2006-12-03 20:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with him. You can do better.
Coach
2006-12-03 19:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋