ok here it goes..... I meet someone online and we have been talking for about a month and a half now. There is something about him that makes me really happy and he is constantly on my mind. There is a small age differance between us he is 30 and I am 24 ( witch is no big deal). The only thing is ..... is that I am still married BUT seperated from my husband. It has been 4 months now. He had an affair and the girl ended getting prego and we also have a daughter together. The guy that I meet know what is going on and understands completly because his wife did the same to him. The only thing is my husband wants to work things out and I am not sure I do and the guy that I am talking to wants to meet and there is a good possibility of something happening between us.
What would you do in this situation? Is it to soon to be getting into something else since I am still legally married? Please help ease my mind. I think I know what I want I just need some reasurance.
2006-12-03 11:08:48 · 14 answers · asked by REBECCA C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well your seperated. and this guy you met on line you both hit it off. worth checking out if you dont' you'll never know if he was sincere and the right one for you. Its not like your going to get married right away again. so go slow go out on dates and get to know him better you'll know in time.
And for your ex he wants to get back with you if you feel you want to try then try. but keep him where he is and you here. and you go slowly with him again. Don't jump right back in he may not have changed and will do the same thing again down the road. Keep your options open and check this man out see if he's nice. and you get along and he's what you want in a man.
good luck
2006-12-03 11:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I would see what your marriage is going to do before I would pursue any thing at all with this other "Internet" guy. A lot of people on there will tell you anything that you want to hear, when they want something.
I know that your husband made a mistake by cheating on you and even worse helped her get pregnant. I say that cause she sure didn't do it alone. Just keep in mind that no matter which way this goes, your husband will be paying child support, whether it be you he pays or her, he is going to pay.
Do not let your Internet friend have any influence on what you do, either you are going to stay with your husband or you are not. If not staying with husband, stay away from the friend until the divorce is over with, as you don't want your husband to be able to have some thing to hang over your head. If the husband stays, then the friend goes.
2006-12-03 11:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rebecca - you need to make a decision about your MARRIAGE first! Do you want to work it out or don't you. 4 months isn't long to be separated - although it may seem like a long time.
2nd thing though - you are still married and it's not the time to be exploring other relationships when you are in one - no matter the mess he has made of it - you still have a responsibility to your child to be an example to her that her father was not. You have been hurt by your husband's infidelity - but going out and having an affair of your own will put you in an even more messy situation. Deal with one thing at a time.
2006-12-03 11:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take some time away from the Internet guy. Have you and your husband every thought about seeing a marriage counselor? A good one, that is. If you have only been separated 4 months, maybe you need to give it time. If you pursue the Internet guy, he could become the "rebound" guy and usually that never works out. Don't put your dependency on the Internet guy, but think about your child and what is best for her and yourself. A question to ask yourself is if you could ever trust your husband again, some women cannot trust again, once trust has been broken, it is a hard thing to trust again. Best of Luck!
2006-12-03 11:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysdreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember; and I've seen it with my own eyes! Anyone can be anyone online. In other words; I've seen people send pics of themselves that are not of them - and the only way anyone found out was b/c this person got busted duping people online.
You truly do not know this man online. The only thing that people tell you is what you want to hear. Meeting someone is a completely different thing! Meet people real time in a crowded area if you have met them virtually.
I have to wonder how immature you are and how insecure you are too. Your questions breathes the 2 mentioned issues. "Prego"? etc.....without hurting your feelings I will not go any futher with regard to this paragraph.
And so this "guy" says that his wife did the same thing to him.....yada yada........you're running from reality sweetheart.
Think about your daughter. You don't even know this joe blow. I think that you're looking for trouble if you continue this fantasy. And the reason that he is on your mind is simple curiosity mingled with what you want him to be.
You're angelina jolie and he's brad pitt........*shrug* There ya go!
2006-12-03 11:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to decide for sure if you want to work things out with your husband, or finalize the divorce. You need to make that decision without thinking about this other guy, this has to be your decision based on your feelings. If you go through with the divorce, then take some time for yourself before getting involved with someone else. Divorces are a very emotional thing to go through.
2006-12-03 11:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not too soon. The marriage is "over". I don't believe the old saying "once a cheater always a cheater" but I do believe if you are with the same person that is true. Something was missing in your relationship for him to cheat in the first place. And besides so you want to raise another womans child? Good luck to you.
2006-12-03 11:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as taking a break between relationships and figuring out what to do with your life.
You have a bad marriage behind you and you have a child who is now from a broken home.
Stop trying to date for a while and get your life together.
2006-12-03 11:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to end one thing before you jump into another. Don't meet this internet guy until your divorce is final.
2006-12-03 11:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The marriage you had is NO MORE! It's over.... so I would say "Go For It" because you only live once!
2006-12-03 12:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋