Can anyone help me with this?

Question

I just found out that my 26 y/o step daughter was raped back in August and is pregnant because of this rape. She has decided to keep the baby, and I am proud of her for that. Her own mother won't speak to her. She's a single mother of 2 and I was just wondering what are some things I can do to help her cope and not to become too depressed because of it? Any suggestions?

Answer 1

First off, your great for standing by her when her own mother won't. (she shouldn't be allowed to use the term mother) Secondly, she really needs to see a professional. Some one who knows how to handel rape victims. You also need to remind her that it WAS NOT her fault. You need to keep telling her that you love her and will always be there to help. God Bless her.

Answer 2

I think she may need some counseling. That will help her cope with the rejection from her mother. It is really too bad that her mother is behaving like this. Her daughter has made a choice, and she should accept that!

I would also try to be really supportive and be there for her a lot. Make soem plans with her.....shopping trip or maybe an evening of movies or some activity you know she enjoys. The time will help her to get her mind off of the issues she is dealing with.

Make sure she knows that you are there for her as a support system. Maybe her father should tell her the same? I'm sure she needs all the support she can get right now.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think she may need some counseling. That will help her cope with the rejection from her mother. It is really too bad that her mother is behaving like this. Her daughter has made a choice, and she should accept that!

I would also try to be really supportive and be there for her a lot. Make soem plans with her.....shopping trip or maybe an evening of movies or some activity you know she enjoys. The time will help her to get her mind off of the issues she is dealing with.

Make sure she knows that you are there for her as a support system. Maybe her father should tell her the same? I'm sure she needs all the support she can get right now.
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Answer 4

Rape, by definition, is probably the single worst way to viloate and degrade someone with the intent to shame and humiliate. It goes against everything a woman or man knows to be decent and the result of such an atrocity is severe mental issues no one can even really imagine if never experienced. I am not passing judgement on anyone here because I don't know anything, but to me, this is not a pro-life / abortion issue. There is nothing more contradictory to me than this exact issue. Along with giving life to someine is the mandatory 18 years of parental caregiving. How could anyone perform this role to their fullest if a parent is knowingly missing prior to birth and this is especially so since she is already a mother of 2. At the very least, if the emotions are definite towards giving life, SINCE it was rape, the child should be put up for adoption. I know someone who did the same and the other children disowned her because her attention went heavier towards the bastard child. Alas, the truth was known. She cried rape, but she wanted it, even more than her own 3 children born and raised with a husband who's only fault was to marry into this MF family. (Bae sisters of Pusan. MF's)

Answer 5

Right now, the best thing you can do for her is be there for her. If she breaks down, she needs something to fall on, and since her mother is not there, you need to catch her when and if she falls. Take her shopping for maternity clothes and baby stuff. Help her enjoy this difficult time and help her take her mind off of things. It would be nice also, if you got her hooked up to a nice man and a quality, father like figure for her baby. one thing might lead to another and she could have a great life. Remember to tell her that, "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." she could also use emotional support. But baisically, you should just be there.

I hope I helped you out.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

First for most... she needs to talk to someone because you don't want her to look at the baby and see him everytime she see's her child.. .. always let her know the feeling ( when the the occur) are normal and can be worked out. If she does not go and talk about them it can have a long term effect of her and the child.. Remind her that she lived through it and is a survivour the rest will be icing on the cake..

Answer 7

be there for her go to her appointment with her and suggest she see someone for a while as this will be a very tough time.

a counsellour can help to be a vent if she may be keeping things in. shes probably absolutluy petrified ofg having the baby questioning will she love it and also the constant reminder of her ordeal.

she is increadably brave but i guess very emotionally fragile. be the best step mum you can to her and even offer to be her birth partner etc.

Answer 8

she is blessed to have you!!! i would suggest counseling and getting involved with ssi so they can give her the assistance she will need when the baby comes. i might also say that what she has done is a courageous and wonderful thing you have every right to be proud of her. there are also many churches who can offer her assistance with the baby as well as her emotional issues as well. good luck and God Bless!

Answer 9

The best thing for her is someone to talk to. She should seek some sort of counciling...but not everyone is open to that. Just let her know you are there. Offer some babysitting on occasion, maybe buy her some parenting books so she has a guide.

Answer 10

The only thing I could suggest would be counseling for her and the upmost support and respect. I am totally against abortions (except for in rape cases), so I am very happy for her and hope that all works out for the best for her. I wish I was there to give her a big hug!!!! Please give her one from me :)
Best of Luck to you!
Rachel