Does the character of a man actually matter to a woman?

Question

I'm looking for serious answers here. Nothing along the lines of "duh" or "of course".

I'm just wondering, because I haven't been able to find a woman who thinks that it's important for a man to live his life with integrity. Most women that I know think that it's great when a man is unfaithful, lazy, bullying, and dishonest in general. They view him as being a "bad boy" who has "edge" and is a "challenge".

On the other hand, a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and would be a devoted husband and father, is seen as "boring" and "too nice".

Why is this? Do these women have low self-esteem and think that they don't deserve better . . . or, do men of integrity have to start being losers in order for women to appreciate them?

I look forward to your intelligent and well-thought-out answers.

Answer 1

I have been married to my wife for 18 years. I know my wife and she believes it is important to her that her husband (me) is a good, honest person, who is caring, hard working She supports my extensive community involvement, encourages me to continue to be a learner and a teacher. She respects the work I do, but the standard that she holds me accountable to the highest degree: that I be a great father and role model to my two children.

A very good, thought provoking question!

Answer 2

Many women looking for the bad boy do have low self esteem some just want the excitement the danger they perceive the bad boy to represent. Many women go through this phase and grow out of it by the mid twenties most women are looking for exacty what you got. Just stay the way you are, the girls will catch up to you, don't worry and you'll be the better catch too so relaxa nd enjoy the wait, bet it won't be all that long either. I would pick the man of integrity over the bad boy, oh wait I did do that when I married him.:)

Answer 3

how about i give you my number, then you won't have anymore problems. not nearly enough men have character or integrity. hell, some of them can't even spell it. not all women want bad boys. bad boys are nothing but stress and headaches and will never grow up, you know, the peter pan syndrom. they tend be very insecure, intimidated by a strong woman that's inteligent and has good head on her shoulders. sometimes they think if she's smart there won't be anything they could to impress her, or she'll expect more of them then they are willing to give. bad boys aren't mature enough to know how to treat women which is why they get labled the bad boy. just be secure in the knowledge that when the right woman comes along she won't know what hit her. she'll appreciate you for being honest, loyal, inteligent, husband and father patential and etc. you know, all the boring stuff that makes a man a man and not a bad boy.

Answer 4

I think you need to see what kind of calibre women you are meeting. If you are meeting women who only want "bad boys" then you really need to open up the range of places you hang out and people you meet. You will generally find that women from a lower socio-economic background like men like this (also women who lack confidence).
I cannot stand lazy men and think "bad boys" are losers, this is because I myself am educated and want to find a partner who is ambitious and devoted so we can build our lives together. No-one male or female wants a boring partner and just because someone is devoted and a good husband doesn't mean they have to be boring.
So to answer your question, men of integrity need to start hanging around in places where the smart women are and stop going for tarty bimbos.

Answer 5

Perhaps the character of the woman in question is relevant.But I have seen women stand by men of lesser character,love,I believe and a relationship between two people can come down to being pretty objectionable and while no two situations are every the same,how those two people treat each other is really what's important !

Answer 6

This is easy.

Immature, emotionally unhealthy women want immature emotionally unhealthy men. They have a lot in common!!

Mature, emotionally healthy women, want mature emotionally healthy men. They create something worthwhile together, and that's what they both want.

I'm with a woman from the later category, and if I ever found out that I was wrong about that...she'd be gone from my life. I'm not interested in being with a child.

I'd rather be alone and enjoy my own company than be in a relationship with someone who's incapable of being in a relationship.

That's insanity.

Answer 7

I don't know why. But, have faith, not all women are like that. I think the older I got the more I wanted a REAL man. I think that some women want the controversy and drama. I on the other hand want a hard working, responsible man. PS.(I have a sister that needs a good man.)heehee.. Hang in there... your princess will come.

Answer 8

Sounds like you're hanging out with the wrong crowd. Of course, character matters. That's one of the things you base a good relationship on.
The thing with a good woman is that she is hard to find because she knows better than to hang out in bars or clubs. She is visible but not in places you'd think to find her.
You will attract the person that you are. That is why these women that you know are attracting or attracted to types of men you describe. That is the law of attraction.

Answer 9

Yes
Character is important to women, if they have character.

Sometimes women become so use to lazy, unfaithful men that they think its normal - anyone else is viewed as different, unfamiliar, odd. And people are arfraid of what they don't know, so they cling to the familiar.

Answer 10

Some women do not care about that.But for others women,is very important the character of men.