What Does A Dream Mean?

Question

I have been having reaccuring dreams, of being very intimate with another female, though the face never appears in my dreams. And, I wake up very aroused and turned on by it. I'm married, and I love being with my husband. But, women turn me on as well. Could I be bi?

Not just a fantasy to me. Because, for one I have been with a woman and it felt really good. And, another thing, if it was just a the dream every night.

*if it was just a fantasy, I wouldn't have the dream every night.

I'm married, so I couldn't be a full lesbian. Is there anyone that is not rude on here?

Answer 1

If I understand your comments correctly you've had sex with a woman before. Was that the only woman you ever had sex with?

I have a reaccuring dream about my ex-girlfriend its been going on almost every other night (sometimes every night) for the past 9 years. Its extremely intimate and sexual, but not raunchy, its pure love-making and in the dream we are completely 100% in love with eachother. It always starts out with heavy kissing, then I move down to suck both her breast for several minutes, then I move down and bury my face between her legs and keep going til the sheets are soaked and she tells me she wants me inside her so I come back and enter her and use slow steady strokes while I'm kissing her passionately. After about a half an hour I lower my head besides hers, kissing her neck, and she starts repeatedly whispering in my ear telling me she loves me, taht she wants a baby and keeps begging me in this tender loving voice to *** inside her until I have nothing left. Sometime it repeats... on those nights I get so aroused that I lose control and blow my load for real and don't realize it until I wake up

I know that its my Ex-girlfriends because of her body and her voice, but I never see her face, not even during the kissing part of the dream.

In reality, my Ex and I never got that close emotionally or sexually (Always used a condom) and we were nowhere near the point of having kids together. I think the reason why I keep have that same dream about her is because as I've gotten older I think a lot about being in a truly intimate emotional and sexual relationship and thinking about having kids, but still haven't found the right woman. I think the dream stems from my subconscious desire have kids along with a strong intimate relationship so it manifest as a intimately passionate dream with a "faceless" woman as a generic placeholder. I think the "faceless" woman takes on the body and voice of my Ex because of all the girls I knew, she was the one I had the strongest emotional and sexual connection with. I think the dream keeps reacurring as a sign reminding me of what I desire to have.

Perhaps your reaccuring dream and "faceless" woman is like my reaccuring dream. It's a fantasy creation of your subconscious desires. It could be that deep down you miss that intimate feelings and experiences like what you had before. Perhaps the dream keeps reacurring for the same reasons mine do, as a sign to remind you of your heart's desire. Since the dream centers on very intimate sex with a woman, there is a high probability that you are a latent bisexual and your desires have started to bubble up to the surface, manifesting themselves as this reaccuring dream.

You and your husband should have gotten to know each other well before the marriage and I'm assuming you were honest with him and told him about the lesbian relationship in you past. If he's an overly religious-type you may not have told him, and you will never be able tell him about your past and your current desires, because overly religious-type are dead set against bisexuals and homosexuals. If he knows of your past you should be able to tell him about the dream and your desire for other women, and if he truly loves you he will make the effort to try and understand how you feel. If you have a good marriage and have a solid trust and loyalty established bewteen you, its possible (if he is openminded) that your husband may allow you to fufill your desires and let you have sex with women. He would probably be more inclined if he were allowed to have sex with her too. If he does allow this, my advice would be to ALWAYS ask his permission for EACH encounter and at least introduce the woman to him. This way you not only maintain the trust and honesty bewteen you two, you also reasure him that he matters more than the other woman, he is first in your book, and its him you still will "honor and obey", if he says no, then honor his wish and don't sleep with her that night... you can always ask again another night.

If I had a wife, knew I can trust her, and she respected me enough to let me tell her when (and who) she has sex with outside our marriage... I'd let her sleep with women if she were bisexual.

If you are unfortunate enough to have a close-minded religious husband, you'll either have to divorce, or deny who you really are, living a less-than-full life since you will never be able to express the true you.

Answer 2

This isn't uncommon. You can have dreams, and fantasies without being a lesbian or bi. You can't really control your dreams and if you don't feel that you are queer then don't look into it any further. If you are curious a little exploration might not be a bad thing. Take a look at your fantasies, or anybody you might think is cute or hot. Are they mostly guys, or mostly girls? Do you feel any attraction to females outside of these dreams?

Answer 3

First of all, dreams are symbolic. It's our mind telling us something about ourselves. A dream that reccurs is simply your mind trying to get your attention, because you either didn't pay attention before, or you were focused on the wrong message that your mind was trying to tell you. Second of all, most dreams of being intimate with someone else isn't usually about sex, more's the pity. ;) That's why in your dream you don't see the face of the other female, this dream is about you and your feelings. You already know that women turn you on as well as being with your husband does. No reason to need a label for yourself, you are married, and sounds like you are happy that way. I think the dream is your mind telling you that you like the intimacy with other females. You can have intimacy with females without having sex, as in a very close intimate friendship. Maybe you were thinking that if you had a close intimate relationship with another female that meant you aren't being true to your husband? If that's the case, relax, that's just a close friendship, which is fine, and has nothing to do with sex. Our brain is very fantastic! But it cannot seperate out physical and emotional intimacy. Intimacy is intimacy to our mind. That's why in a dream when our mind wants us to think about intimate close feelings with someone, it portrays intimacy as a sexual thing. It's up to us, depending on how we are really feeling inside, to separate those things out. Have you met a female you are really drawn to lately? Not so much sexually, but emotionally, as close friends would be. If so, could be your mind telling you it's ok, that close friendship is something that you would be happy to have. And again, not to be confused with sexual intimacy, even tho you are attracted to other women. Does this make sense?? If you'd like to talk about it more, you can email me. It's hard to explain, but I can try a different way if this is just confusing you. I've taken several dream courses given by a dream analyst. If any of what I've said makes sense to you, and feels right for you in regards to your recurring dream, then you likely won't have that dream again. :) You will have received the message your mind was trying to tell you with the dream.

Answer 4

dreams are just your thoughts unspoken when you are awake with fears and fantasies and some future nothing bad not signs either it just makes you make choices a little better

Answer 5

i feel 4 ya, i love my husband, but lessbian porn turns me on! i had the chance to be a swinger, but it didn't work out. I think you have to be honest with yourself, do you think your bi, if u are do you want to tell your husband? I wish u luck.

Answer 6

It means that you are a lesbian and must swear off the one-eyed snake.

Answer 7

This is a vey common female fantasy. It means nothing.

Answer 8

I think your husband is a very lucky man. Inform him immediately.

Answer 9

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