2006-12-03 09:43:32 · 13 answers · asked by Angela Avalon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I should add that this service starts at like 9:30 and ends at 4 in the afternoon. And most of it is a talent show done in another language. And he says he will go with our without me.
2006-12-03 09:48:32 · update #1
...and we go to two different churches
2006-12-03 09:49:40 · update #2
I have a very strong belief in my own faith and have really, really tried to go to his church, but it is not for me. He has never attended my church, not once.
2006-12-03 09:54:04 · update #3
Some people put God before family. You cant change their mind. In my house, its family first. But some folks believe God is first even if it hurts your family. So you cant change him. Church doesnt last too long does it? After church you can have him. At least Christmas isnt on Sunday this year. I remember once it was, and that was a horrible Christmas. My parents made us go to church before we opened presents!!!
2006-12-03 09:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by bran 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he can't be with you and celebrate Christmas,maybe it's because you won't go to church with him! If he has strong belief and you don't, why not attend a meaning full worship with him? And then visit the family. If they are far away, then go there and while there attend a church service with your husband. You don't have to move into the church! Also-you don't have to stay for the "talent show" that is entertainment ment for those who intend to spend the day there, you have family and the time can be split. Do the worship at church and then the family activities. You need to agree to go to both your church and his church. See how important it is to agree on these things befor marriage?
2006-12-03 17:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that gowing to the church means a lot to him and maybe the family should go to church together or meet him in the middle of the service because 9 in the morning is really early and thats the time when children want to open there christmas gifts
2006-12-03 17:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, church is like ice cream--everyone likes a different flavor.
Church becomes dangerous when it becomes a substitute for one's own value system. It's like a drug--beneficial in measured doses; dangerous when it becomes an addiction.
You seem to have a bigger problem than the Christmas church service--your marriage seems to be suffering from differing priorities. Even if he won't go with you, get yourself a marriage counselor.
2006-12-03 18:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by knowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I go to church Xmas eve for one hour for communion. Then go at 11am and 3pm Xmas Day as my wife is catholic and I am Anglican. The services are short and we go together to all three. I think 9.30 to 4pm is ridiculous. He should do his worship and then be with his family. It is right to go to church (if that is what someone wants to do) but there has to be time for family as well.
You don't have to go to church to pray or receive Gods grace. John Wesley who founded the Methodist church taught us that. At first he had church so preached in the open and covered 400,000 miles in his lifetime on horseback. That is my belief religion goes with being a family and it is quite easily possible to blend the two on Christmas Day.
Having said that if your husband is the Priest/MINISTER/VICAR then you may have to accept he will be at church all day. If not he should be with you.
2006-12-03 17:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Christ-mas is for Christ that is the reason for the season. It would be fulfilling, if both could go to church and celebrate the arrival of our Christ as a family. Not only the two of you as family but also the church family.
2006-12-03 17:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is usually spent with both. At least for Catholics. We go to church Christmas eve for midnight mass. Does he plan to spend all day there?
2006-12-03 17:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both, church is only for a couple of hours, can't you go with and then spend time together after..
2006-12-03 17:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a usual custom for him...then you should let him go. Don't tell me you didn't discuss all this when you were dating?!
If this is being done to hurt each other...it's time for a relationship evaluation. Religion shouldn't be used to hurt each other.
2006-12-03 18:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by kit_e_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is for the mass consumption of unneeded products so that retail companies can make a buck.
2006-12-03 17:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋