There's a guy a work who I really like, but I know I can never be with him cos he has a girlfriend. I accept this and we are friends, and realistically I don't think things would work between us romantically - but I just can't seem to stop thinking about him. I really want to be open to other opportunities, but he's always on my mind. How can I 'move on' - please don't tell me to not be friends with him, that's just not possible, I value his friendship too much.
2006-12-03 09:09:59 · 14 answers · asked by Kirsty 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's not going to be easy but.. you really do need to move on... you can't think about "if he break up with his girlfriend then..."... that's not fair on you...
I think you should perhaps just try your hardest to forget about him. Get involved with what your friends are upto, meet other people and other guys.... you don't really want to be with someone who may be very happy with another girl do you? You don't really wanna feel guilty for breaking their relationship either otherwise you would've tried doing that by now (psycho!!)...
You deserve someone who'll only be with you.... and that someone really isn't him!
Don't worry. i'm sure it'll get easier in time!
2006-12-04 04:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by gorgeous_ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were being honest with yourself you would see that you only value his frienship so much because deep down you want more from the relationship.
If you want to leave yourself open to other possibilities then you have to actually do just that. The only way you can do that is pretty obvious really... isn't it?
Simple question:
Do you value his frienship or your own future more?
Are you holding on to this friendship in the hope that the girlfriend becomes history so you can have a go with him?
You don't have to answer me but be honest with yourself.
You want him and are holding out which is the only reason you cling to a friendship... While your focus is on him you are not letting anyone else in and will remain in this onesided relationship till you wise up and move on.
2006-12-07 09:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lara L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always try to find someone else. Or you can talk to him about how you feel about him. I think if you open yourself up and let your feelings out, especially to the person whom you are thinking about, you will be taking the first step to moving on. I think the next step would be to look for someone else and see what they have to offer to you. Chances are, you have a crush on this boy but it's not real love. That's something you'll be able to feel once you find someone else and spend some time with them.
2006-12-03 09:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you do accept that you could never be with him....why else would you continue to think about him, in your subconcious maybe you hope that if he splits with his girlfriend then he could be with you?
Well you've heard of this one before: 'There's plenty more fish in the sea' though you may have to fish a bit to get a good catch. Dan
2006-12-03 09:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same problem here, I want someone that I cant have so now I am becoming obsessive, this is not like me, he is married and I am in middle of divorce, I am more upset over him then my husband. fell in love on the rebound, he showed me attention, that was it, and I am in love with him, made a fool out of myself drunk, but think he got in trouble. will no longer respond to emails. desperate, but not myself.
2006-12-03 17:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really all you can do is give it time and hope it passes i cant really give u advice as i am on the same boat but its me that as the b/f at the end of the day they are just feelings they will fade dont end your friendship i thunk it will only make it harder.
2006-12-03 10:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a no win situation.maybe its because you cant have him that you want him even more.go out more if you can move in different circles.failing that get on face party.lots of men there to distract you .
2006-12-03 09:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kill the other girl
I'm kiddin' , you don't really have much possibilities :( ,but if u get into a relationship he will be more interested in you, even if he will never admit that! I've tried that and it worked...Good luck!
2006-12-03 09:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Adina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
eat ice cream!! a lot of it, then the next day go jogging to burn of all the fatb you just put ionto your body. while your jogging take your sisters ipod (or yours if you have one) and blast it.
2006-12-03 09:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u really value his friendship.then just keep it as that and nothing more.better to have him as a close friend than nothing at all
2006-12-03 09:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋