Teenagers, do you feel your parents don't understand you?

Question

I know that it is tough on you nowadays and there is so much pressure put on you to have sex, drink alcohol, smoke, take drugs, etc..When you do talk to your parents about what you're facing, they get upset & start yelling at you. You have to realize though that your parents were also once teenagers and have made stupid mistakes in their lives. Your parents do have your best interest at heart and have more experience in life than you do. You may not see that now, but wait until you start having kids of your own, then you will appreciate the sacrifices your parents had made.

Although your parents give you advisce & tell you what's right & wrong, they need to understand that their kids will make mistakes too. That's how they learn.

to participate #4 I think I understand what you are saying. That's why I think parents & kids need to set aside time to communicate (no yelling, name calling) with each other and parents have to be careful not to fly off the handle when your teenager confesses something they did wrong. I think most teenagers what a parent who will listen to them.

Answer 1

I agree, but theres still times where I dont feel like we're on the common ground. You see, my parents grew up in Cameroon, in Africa, and I was born in England and stayed there a little, then moved to America, which I'm at now. America is soo different than Africa, and the things they did there are different.. its just really diff. So sometimes I may act like.. ya know, american, when my parents still stick to their own beliefs.. like with sleepovers. i tell my mom that alot of kids do them here and you just hang with your friends and sleepover at their house, but my mom disagrees and is like "you should sleep in your own bed, unless they live out of the state" omg its so stupid. i know there are some important values which i guess we can connect on, but other things.. i dont think they'll really get. but they're open minded and stuff.. but ya. not as easy as some of the american parents here, though i still love mine so.

uh sorry that im talking about me, but your question kinda makes me do so, lol. anyway, im sure there are times for everyone when you feel that your parents dont understand you. and other times when they do. i know they mean best, though some kids dont think so. but you know, you could just have a bad parent that doesnt really care about you. then you have to be like more independent, and i could see why they'd say they dont understand their parents.

I'm only 13, and they're plenty of kids in my middle school that have probably tried all those things, like you've said. its pretty sad.. but like.. I guess thats their problem. I'm glad i've got such good parents and that i have a good enough mine not to. i mean, drugs are gay, smoking is so lame, alcohol tastes bad (tasted a sip), and sex is for when you're married, or atleast out of high school. my parents didnt do those things in africa too, so they cant like tell their own experiences. they made good choices, so i can also see what good will happen, since they succeeded so much in life. alot of their classmates who probably did those and were concerned with not very important things are left in africa, while my parents.. wow. my dad is super smart and is making a huge company, and my mom took an accelerated course while having a baby less than one.. but passed and is now a nurse. (which is how we get our money now since my dad is still preparing the company.. dang it sucks that i gotta move though and it cant be to california! lol my parents dont get that i'd like cali more than texas) so its like a reverse affect. either "listen to the mistakes we made when we were young" or "we didnt make those bad choices in the past and look where its taken us" anyway, my point is.. er.. what i've just said, lol. sorry its wayy long!

~peace

Answer 2

my mom doesn't do that, but that is probably b/c i tell her everything, and she trusts me. but she does pressure me not to have sex since i just started dating my bf. the age difference could also be a reason why she isn't on my case all the time (23 yrs.) and she has told me that there is nothing that i can do that she hasn't done/tried and it's true cuz one day she told me all the bad things that she did as a teenage/in high school (skip class/school, suicide a couple times, drugs.......u get the picture) and she told me that she doesn't want that to happen to me cuz she almost died a couple times, and she was a very angry teenager, so she makes sure that it won't happe nto me, by talking, and letting me have a lot of freedom. and i love her very much!

Answer 3

in a grandfather me and my wife have are grandughter liveing with us for 6 years now
older people dont understand the younger ones at all and if we did you not understand us then
so how do you win
you will find out later in life what is going on
you want your kids not to do what you have did when you that age
ask your mom and dad what age did they start with sex there first beer they had
if they are true with you i can bet it was at a younger age than you are now


NO ONE SHOW YOU HOW TO REASE A KIDS
MY SPELLING NOT TO GOOD
AND IT IS SO HARD TO DO THE RIGHT THING AND THEY DO WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING

Answer 4

i kno they dont understand me lol and i dont want them to, just sum points
and if you think about it if they dont let us make mistakes then how can we learn from them, i know they dont want us gettin hurt but kids grow up faster these days and they gotta learn how to let us

Answer 5

Yes, I do feel that way sometimes

Answer 6

hell yes my parents always do that they wont leave me alone

Answer 7

hell yes my dad always do that and wont leave me alone