Have you ever had a fight with your significant other and are convinced that everything was your fault, so you apologize? But when you talk to others about it, you realize that it wasn't really all your fault?
What do you do about it then?
I decided to let it go ...
My boyfriend and I had a fight lastnight. We've been together for almost 10 months and this was our second biggest fight. We're in our early 20s and I still feel pretty new at this serious relationship stuff. The fight is resolved, but then I couldn't stop thinking about it. So I asked a couple friends. They said it wasn't really my fault to begin with. One says sorry no matter because she loves him too much to let him go. Another is married and said we all go through fights. It's normal. You just atleast have to let them know how you feel. I did.
I realized that I feel like I'm acting like a brat when I'm not and I don't believe myself... So I just believe HIM instead and what he tells me. Weird, I know. : /
2006-12-03 09:05:10 · 3 answers · asked by ( Kelly ) 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't say to end it. Because it's not an option. We love each other too much. He's not taking advantage of me and he's a good guy. I just need some thoughts... Thanks.
2006-12-03 09:06:55 · update #1
Well i can't say that i have the best answer for ya girl but i do know where you are comming from... I have been with my man for almost a yr hes 34 im 20...he asked me to marry him a few months ago i said yes... we've had many ups and downs and very rocky moments...sometimes i feel that i act immature or like a brat even though others tell me its just cause i'm younger and like things a certain way. I think that if you too love each other like you said then youll grow together youll learn how each other react to certain situations you really didnt elaberate on the situation so i don't know what happen but i do know that it takes time to find the happy medium the middle ground after you have been upset with each other because my man has said things to me that i thought i could never forgive and i'm sure ive said the same but he does anything in the world for me and for that is why i love him... so i dont know if i am helping you at all but don't worry if he loves you youll work it out things aren't always perfect and i think that if you hold things in it just makes it worse me and my man argue every day but if we didnt id hold so much in id probably just go crazy lol i wish you the best and i hope you understand that. also dont let him tear you down either by telling you bologna stuff like your acting childish or your being stupid or youll never find anyone else like *HIM* because he's just saying those things cause hes scared that you can find someone else. And if hes saying your acting like a brat say thanks and keep on going don't belive him instead if you are standing by what you feel inside dont let him contradict your self worth and feelings! Once again i wish you luck muah xoox!
2006-12-03 09:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by mandashoes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get into that "who's fault was it" most couples get into fights ,some silly and others more serious,however after many years of marriage I'd say don't argue about the minor stuff and pick the fights that are really important to you.And lastly try your best to resolve them before you go to bed as its better for sleep and your health.Good luck!
2006-12-03 17:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by sasyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Hey, has it happen to you lately that you're answering in your forum and suddenly you're in another forum (like the one in Spanish)?
2006-12-03 17:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋