I keep going out with my close female friend,(in touch practically everyday) we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We’re ATTRACTED to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me, feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc.
She doen’t like it when I mention other girls that had caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP.Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she ignored me for a week.Was this jealousy or just a coincidence?My behaviour DID NOT change towards her+I'm not actually dating anyone.Was told she is happy for me,why wouldn’t she ask about this girl,seeing she’s a good mate?
I told her how I felt about her and her responses were:
1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???
DID NOT SAY WE ARE/WILL ONLY FRIENDS.Does she love me??What should I do??
2006-12-03 08:51:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I then told her a few weeks later that I needed some time away from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???WHY???
My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.
She’s gotten bck in touch—like nothing has happened.
Have said I value our friendship and I mean that. BUT I still have feelings for her.I miss her so much!What she thinking/feeling?
2006-12-03 08:52:48 · update #1
Said that us going out together "wouldn't feel right"-MEANING???
2006-12-03 08:58:27 · update #2
sounds like she loves you but doesnt want to take that step case it goes wrong and she loses you as a friend.
decide what you want from this relationship - friendship or something more? then openly talk to her about how you feel.
if you like her...then just take it slowly as it will be weird going from friend to partner so rapidly as you'll need to get to know each other again (this can be fun though!!!!!!)
if you just wanna be friends...then she needs to know also as it could ruin your friendship as it stands now, it sounds like its driving a gap between you with just what your saying now.
either way you just need to be honest and kind to her feelings. i know its an awkward situation. my friend is going through something very similar and its getting him down as he feels worried about what to say to her or how to act around her. we've told him exactly the same thing and hes now deciding how he feels - friends or partners?
good luck either way
2006-12-03 11:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of things, it sounds you two are inlove with each other, no doubt! :) She doesn't want you with anyone else, and I am sure you probably feel the same way. Call her, and go out to dinner, and while you are at it.. Tell her you Love her, watch her response, handle things maturely. I bet she will say she loves you too.. You both sound like an item.. Remember in any relationship, you have to be friends first... ;-) go for it.. Good Luck..
2006-12-03 08:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical behavior of a jealous friend! I think she does have feelings for u, other than freindship because if she was really ur friend she would try to get to know the girl and give u her opinion/ advice abt the girl u re attracted to..either + or -...that's wht I call "close" friends..
Good Luck!
2006-12-03 09:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness....your friend is so digging on you and if you feel the same way you better tell her something. Quit beating around the bush and keep it real with each other...you might miss out on a great thing bcuz you're worried about messing up your friendship or whatever, but shoot, that's how all good relationships should start!!!!!!GOOD DAY
2006-12-03 08:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by mzbailey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my my this girl needs a big smooch fae you i think. she is giving mixed signals just take a moment that you feel is right and go in for the kill, if she knocks you back go down the route of i just needed to know and ask why so distant when other girls are mentioned and if she takes you up on it, your off and running does sound like this needs to be done get it out the way.. :) good luck you sound a nice girl if she knows what good she will snap you up
2006-12-03 10:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she really likes u.maybe even loves u.but has low self esteem or problems commiting.she doesnt like it when ur with other girls,but when u try to get with her she says "i dont deserve ur feelings."sounds like she cares for and admires u,but doubts herself or is afraid to explore her deeper feelings.in time,she may come around-but,if it doesnt get romantic in,say,6 months or so,she just may not be ready for a "real" relationship,and,much as u like her,u may have to find someone fully able to reciprocate.both partners have to be on the same page and at the same level.2 people can actually be a gr8 match,truly compatable,but one may bee too young or career oriented or immature to commit at that time.good luck,i hope it works out 4 u.
2006-12-03 08:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wants to be in an exclusive relationship with you and is probably dismayed that you wanted to take a break from her. She probably thinks you just want to be friends and she seems to want more.
Sounds like a heart to heart is in order here, but first you need to decide what you want from the relationship. If you just want to be friends, then you need to make it clear or you're going to lose the friendship as she will feel lied to.
If you want something more, then I would make that clear too. Otherwise it will seem like you are just playing games with her, and no one likes that when their heart's involved.
2006-12-03 13:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) meaning: she really likes you, and would be devastated if something bad would happen to u
2)meaning: she doesn't think that she is worht your love
she probably loves/strongly likes you, but doesn't want to ruin the friendship. but ask her out, and see what happens. and since u said that u go out with her already it won't be that different (except the affection)
2006-12-03 09:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being a girl...
it sounds like she likes you, but doesn't know how to tell you...
she was clearly jealous/annoyed about the idea of you and someone else.
if you have feelings for her, get them out in the open.
you never know, you might just make her day
2006-12-03 08:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by chpsauce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many more hints do you need?!!
Made for each other I'd say. What more do you want!!
PS. Also, stop talking about other girls in front of her, she is a girl as well after all.
2006-12-03 08:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kazu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋