so my fiance and i are about to get married...yet his mother is psycho. she basically says that she hopes he goes to iraq (in what she seems to hope he dies), yet at the same time she is saying that i am breaking up the family, when i didnt even do anything (his extended family acutally likes me). she also called me a liar and conniving, when i dont know what i did to be called that and she refuses to tell me as well. this was on thanksgiving and right before she said this i was at his familys hosue and they were joking that i should stay longer for i havent been there in awhile...she also has never supported his choice to be a marine and i was always there for him. the other night she said "who wrote you in bootcamp" and he replied "my gf" for i wrote him EVERY SINGLE DAY. i dont know how to deal with her or what to do...any advise????
2006-12-03 08:21:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does your fiance recognize this behavior? If so, you need to know where he stands. If he will support you emotionally through this, you stand a chance. On the other hand, if he can't see his mother's problem, or if he sides with her, your marriage is probably doomed.
It sounds contrite, but when you marry, you marry the whole family. You need your future husband's support, in a big hurry. If he can't provide it, there will be more issues in your future.
2006-12-03 10:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience people who bypass vegan for their well being or to decrease weight (who already werent well being wakeful and disciplined) infrequently stay it, this doesnt recommend that she would be ready to nto stay vegan yet dont get your hopes up. the terrific element for somebody who isn't self disciplined is to cook dinner along with her. my mom in regulation is likewise a strict vegetarian, she does not care plenty approximately animal welfare or rights no remember what she claims (she nevertheless makes use of animal products) yet she now no longer eats animals. the only motives she has made it this long (approximately 6 months) is by way of us shifting in along with her and cooking for her etc... She replaced into morbidly obese lost the burden on previous diets and has regained it. She lost some weight going vegan yet on account that she does no longer exercising she has platued and now she hasn't lost any in a on an identical time as. So eating healthful will purely do plenty, exercising is neccesary for something.
2016-10-17 16:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your fiance and make sure that he understands what she is doing, and how it hurts you. She is not going to go away, so you can either learn to deal with the situation together, or let it drive a wedge into your marriage. Don't be afraid or ashamed to seek professional help from a therapist or counsellor, either before or after the wedding to help you both deal with this. It's better to swallow your pride and seek help than to be unhappily married.
2006-12-03 08:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by zandyandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's always going to be a pain. You have to accept that. She is a mean and hurtful person.
He does recognize that she is hurtful to you and unsporting of him, right? As long as your fiance can put you first when you are his wife then it shouldn't be a problem. It will make it easier for you that the rest of his family seems normal. I would definitely have limited contact with her whenever possible.
2006-12-03 08:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If son listens to her, then your future is in a whole lot of hurt, if he doesn't, just chill and let her run her mouth and think happy thoughts like burying her in the back yard.
I'm sure as I have read your question that you are not the only one in the family she may criticize and they know it as well.
2006-12-03 08:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Rickard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, but I think the Bible warned against people like that, who may be trying to put asunder what God has joined together. Its one of those things that you have to endure in a relation. Ignore her and know that a time is coming when she will be begging to see her grand kids. Allow her when that time comes just to show her maturity.
2006-12-03 08:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is my suggestion. Get married, be happy and move very far away from her. It will only get worse once you have kids.
2006-12-03 08:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to ignore her after all its her son your in a relationship with not her and if he loves you thats all that matters.
2006-12-03 08:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely nothing you can do about this woman, however you can look after your self, by not letting her sad and deranged words affect you, be there for your man, after all it is him your are marring not her, she is not about to change her ways or thinking so best ignore her
2006-12-03 08:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the best advise.... get pregnant asap... in the future if and when she wants to see her grandchild let her know you have better things to do.... my m.i.l. hates me and this has hurt her relationship with her grandson....
these old bags who have a problem with who their son fell in love with SHOULD really think about the harm they cause!!!!!
2006-12-03 08:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋