my gf was raped two months ago.now she is pregnant,and she wants to keep the baby and do homebirth with her friend helping her and not me!also,i am 12,she is 13 and her friend is 11.her friend and i will both be a year older wen the baby is born.should i leave her alone about it or get mad?
2006-12-03 08:21:42 · 5 answers · asked by im_with_stupid 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If she was raped, she should not want to keep that baby. That will just remind her of a terrible time in her life! You should only keep a baby out of a loving relationship! You guys are to young to be dealing with this! Tell her that she should re-think all this. She is not ready. Even so.. if she isn't going to let you be involved, then I'd let her go. First of all if she is going to keep a rapists baby, what does that tell you? I mean let her live her life with her and her baby. If that is what she wants. Plus giving birth at home is very dangerous. She could kill herself or the baby.
2006-12-03 09:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her parents know about this? A homebirth can be very dangerous if there is not a trained profesional. She is going to the Dr and getting care for her and her baby right? If the answer to these questions are no then we have a problem. And you do need to step in. Child birth is very very hard and could go wrong at any moment expecialy when a child is having a baby. I was 16 when I had my first baby and that was hard enuf. I could not emagin being 13. If she will not listen to you then you may have to talk to her parents or some other trusted adult that can help. Don't be afrade to tell someone even if she hates you for it. If you truly care for her then you need to take care of her no matter what.
Good luck
2006-12-03 08:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by JustAsk'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious???? This little girl, if what you say is true...should be having the help of her family.And honestly, because she is so young I do not think that she should have a home birth. I think that you (if this is true) should move on ....she is going to face challenges being a parent that no one that age should have to deal with. She should be leaning on a n adult...not all of her little school age friends. And you young man, should go on about your life. There is no reason that you should put aside your childhood for the sake of a girlfriend. Live a little!
2006-12-03 08:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my three babies at home. Generally, it is a safer option than any other, BUT it is NOT safe with no prenatal care and as something to hide-no birth is.
The rape is a separate issue, but this baby should not be punished for his dad's crime.
Get your friend and her baby the care she needs, even if it involves telling someone (mom, teacher, etc.) about it.
2006-12-06 10:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by itsmeinin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should help her out. I know it's not your baby, but it's not her fault that any of this happened. where is her parent's at? I'm sure that they would be able to help her
2006-12-03 09:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋