There is this guy that comes into my work (I work at Blockbuster) who I like but I don't know if he is gay or not. Besides the obvious asking him if he'd like to go out to eat or the movies or whatever, what can I say to let him know I'm gay and interested without being obvious since I'm not completely out at work, plus, if he isn't then I'd be humiliated since he comes into my job all the time. Plus, he could get offended. Anyway, what can I say or is there really such a thing as "gaydar" to know if he's gay? Any suggestions gay guys who understand where I'm coming from? BTW, I'm 27 GWM living in Tennessee if this matters at all as far as letting him know I'm gay. And no, I'm not wearing a rainbow pin to work...lol.
2006-12-03 08:01:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Look him up on myspace. It says it.
Ask him if he's for gay marriages, if he's gay, he'll say he's gay. I'm sorry, but I sort of doubt he's gay because not that many people are. It's pretty risky to ask. Sorry I'm not much help.
Good Luck.
2006-12-03 08:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by DK 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
The next time he comes in alone offer him a free movie, snacks, or waive his late fees (wait...Blockbuster doesn't have late fees, do they?) Even if you have to pay for it yourself. Whatever, say something like, "I've noticed you are in here all the time - and I thought I'd ... (insert whatever you can do for him)." This way, he'll be indebted to talk to you, thank you...and if he's gay or interested in you, he'll reciprocate ...maybe invite you for a drink (or to watch the movie with him!)...either way, you'll have made a friend, and an impression, and it will pave the way for future conversations down the road. And if you don't get much of a reaction the first time, do it later on down the road again and see what reaction you get...the second time will definitely give you an answer. I agree with the MySpace lookup, you have his name on the computer (you could even stalk him! Kidding). Also, who does he come in with, what does he rent, how does he dress? All just clues as to which side his bread is buttered. Sometimes we miss these obvious clues when we are interested in someone. Good luck! (let me know how it turns out)
2006-12-03 18:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by tampablueman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all heard of dropping subtle hints and that doesnt mean going up to kiss him on the lips or ask if he is gay too there must be obvious things gay people do in their lives and if he does the same then he is gay unless there are specific signs to say any different that is and if he is then truly will not be offended and you are not put out too lol mate and thank you as always be sensitive gentle true and strong
2006-12-03 16:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you work at Blockbuster, so figure out what he's renting and make small talk about it, and attempt to work some sort of gay friendly topic into the conversation. Don't force it, and if possible get him to talk about it first. Then you can judge how he feels about it, and go from there.
If he seems ok with gay people, then he probably wouldn't flip out if you hit on him a little (even if he's straight). If he seems to have an aversion to anything gay, then best to just leave it be.
2006-12-03 16:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by MysticTortoise 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's coming into your job all the time and talking to you. lol. that's how you know especially if he's not purchasing anything. when i was 19 and in the closet I knew this guy who was about 27, he would come up to my job alot and talk to me, he never told me directly that he was gay or bi but it was obvious that he was hitting on me. I would get nervous when he came in because I wasn't comfortable with being gay. He wanted to hang out with me outside of my work hours, he complimented me, asked my interested and purchased food for me to eat.
My boss at the time just thought he was being nice but it was obvious to me that he was interested in more. I wasn't out at all.
2006-12-03 16:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gay men walk differently. After a good (gay) friend of mine enlightened me, my gaydar has been incredibly accurate. Or maybe you can try to figure it out with what kind of movies he rents. Is it something you would watch?
Good luck!
2006-12-03 17:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by jncverhoef 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could try mild flirting, something that may or may not be taken as flirting. If he flirts back-you might be in luck. If he looks at you funny, he is probably not gay or he is wondering if you meant it as flirting. In any case, if he is not gay and you continue to interact with him without any questionable behavior, he will probably decide you did not mean it as flirting.
2006-12-03 16:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by the guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casually mention the name of a well known gay bar in conversation(as in you went there with a friend once or something)...if he's interested he will talk it up.
2006-12-03 16:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is in bed with you, naked and performing, that might be a good sign. Although, my last bf said he wasn't all the way gay, and he was doing all of the above with me.
2006-12-03 16:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by tylersf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casually ask him if he has seen Brokeback Mountain Yet..Case Closed.
2006-12-03 17:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by sckreet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋