my fiance refuses to put me has his next of kin, in case he dies i would not be able to get his flag, he says that his mother is always going to be it (even when we are married) until she dies, but everyone i talk to says that the wife is the next of kin....i dont know is that right??? or should i be his next of kin?
2006-12-03 07:53:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my fiance says when we are married he wil refuse to put me as his next of kin, so i can get his flag in case he were to die, he says it will always be his mother (until she dies)...what do you think is that right?? or what should it be?
2006-12-03 07:57:47 · update #1
At this point, I think he is making the right decision. If in fact something happened to him, you would find someone else eventually and move on with your life. I think he is just honoring his mother and means no disrespect toward you.
They say the way to pick a man is to see how he treats his mother, looks like you have a pretty good guy....
2006-12-03 08:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by rng4alngtyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wife is legally next of kin, but you aren't his wife yet. For him to tell you now that his mother will always be his next of kin, even after you're married, is a red flag. After marriage you should always come first, even though he will always love his mom.
2006-12-03 15:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving you the flag would be the right thing to do. If the flag goes to his mother and not you, what would others think? You are next of kin no matter what. Would you get his life insurance or would that also go to his mother? You should go and talk to his mother (your mother inlaw). If his mom is cool about you getting the flag over her, she should/would tell her son. If she still feels that she should get the flag, dump that sorry *** and move on. He has not left the nest and never will. Love hurts but that would hurt a ton more if you got nothing. Just a thought.
2006-12-03 16:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Until you are married he is right to make his mom the next of kin but, after you are married you have the right to be claimed as next of kin. You also have the right to fight for benefit he may get after your married if he dies. Even the flag.
2006-12-03 16:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let him list whoever he wants it to be since it is his thing to decide. Marriages come and go but moms are forever. You are a FIANCE not a wife. You will be considered next of kin upon marriage anyway. Leave his paperwork alone bu make sure you are aware of his wishes.
2006-12-03 16:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not married yet. When you're married maybe a different story - why are you stressing about a damn flag anyway? That's kind of morbid since you only get the "flag" if he dies! Grow up and marry him for him, not a damn flag.
2006-12-03 16:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u said the WIFE you are not yet his wife that is why u are not next of kin.
2006-12-03 15:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by big04dog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋