I come from a very religious family, and I am unwed and 3 months pregnant. How can I convince my parents that this truely is part of God's plan and can be a blessing? I am 24 years old (so no, not a teenage pregnancy). And they are convinced that my life is ruined, which only saddens me that they can't share in the beauty of new life. I understand their concerns and struggled through many of the same doubts, but once I overcame all of that I have a peace about the whole situation. Everyday I see the disappointment in their eyes. Today they even asked me how they can get over this phase of disappointment and start celebrating with me because they just don't feel it in their hearts. This is why I feel us Christians are given such a bad name. We can't even support our own families in hard times, how are we expected to help others?
2006-12-03 07:49:54 · 12 answers · asked by rndmlaughter 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What you wrote is absolutely beautiful!
Honestly, you should tell your parents just that. Speak honestly and from your heart...how could they deny you after hearing that?
Your parents don't know what God has in store for you. Only God does. And, if they don't start to understand God's hand in your life they'll never see his plan!
Of course, the alternative is you have an abortion. I'm sure you don't want. But, what if you had not chosen life? Perhaps, God is using this to ask you to reach out to other unwed moms and teens to encourage them to choose life. Without your parents love and blessings you cannot acheive this plan. Perhaps, your parents are unintentionally not allowing God's will to be done.
2006-12-03 07:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They might deal with it better if you had plans for marriage. If that's something you're considering, that could help. You could also consider placing the child for adoption (although it sounds very much like you want to keep this child). Would they see it as a blessing if you placed the baby in a home with 2 parents? If that's something you would consider, know that it is a very loving and unselfish thing to do for a baby. Ultimately you need to decide what you feel is the best choice for you and the baby. If your parents don't agree with your decision, at least you can be confident you made the best choice. You might not be able to convince them, but hopefully in time they will get over it. Especially once they meet the baby. They are probably just worried about you. I'm sure they know babies are blessings, but they also know that they are a lot of work too. As rewarding and amazing as it is to be a parent, it is definitely much easier to enjoy it when you you have support. God made it so that there were two parents for a reason. Parents often feel frustrated or burdened by some of the struggles of raising a child. Having a partner beside you to support you helps lessen those times and helps you to have a more enjoyable time parenting. For example after a long stressful day when you child is sick and has been cranky all day, it is nice to be able to take 15-20 minutes to regroup while daddy cares for the baby and then come back to your baby feeling more refreshed and less frazzled. That is not a luxury single parents find easily. I hope things work out well for you. Congratulations and Good Luck!
2006-12-03 08:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, its how they were raised and what they beleive in. Theres, in my opinion, not much you can do, they have to feel the joy on thier own. Once the baby is born they will feel differently. But if you truely are religious hten they shoudl understand that God works in mysterious ways and does things for a reason, maybe this is something they need to see, they may help others out because thats what htey are supposed to do, but you can't help someone else unless you are truely happy for them. a person in need will always see the intentions behind everyhting. Talk to a pastor or go to a christian help group. Good Luck and congrats.
2006-12-03 07:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* Hopefully once they see their grand baby for the first time they will realize how much they love the child and you. After tons of years of thinking something like that would be a bad thing it might take them along time to get over it.
I would bet once the baby is here though most grandparents really do come around, and I hope that's true for your parents.
2006-12-03 07:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them time, like you said it is against your beliefs to be pregnant and not married. My only thought is that you haven't mentioned a mate, are you planning on getting married to the baby's father, maybe this is their reason for concern. I know they still love you it's just a big change for them. Tell them how you feel and just give it a little time.
2006-12-03 07:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can make them accept that right away, it takes time.
I would just sit them down and tell them "I am your daughter, and I am bringing your grandchild into this world. God has blessed me with this child, and I would want my child to grow up having two wonderful grandparents."
I think thats what I would say, and if they are loving christians like you say they are, they would not turn down a gift for God.
2006-12-03 07:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. BJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your parents about this. Your life is not ruined, you've graduated highschool, and i';m sure very sucessful. Don't let them get you down and talk to them about it. If you are happy than that is what is right.
2006-12-03 07:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by puffalump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them with you to your first scan. once they see the baby moving and heartbeating they will light up. they are still in shock but once they see it things will change they will know its real.
my gran was the same but once she saw the scan photos she changed and got all excited
but definatly take them with you.
im not christian but im sure ur parents know if it wasnt ment to be you wouldnt be pregnant right?
2006-12-03 09:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give them time to adjust. Once the baby is born things will change. Give them time, and good luck to you!
2006-12-03 07:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are making a *very* good living and have plenty of money in the bank, or unless it's the second coming, it's not a blessing.
At your age, it surprises me that you would allow yourself to become pregnant with no husband.
May you come to know the Lord Jesus, and have peace.
2006-12-03 07:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋