My mom tries to find the smallest things to yell at me about. It was better before I went into high school but now it has just gotten worse and worse. I have been grounded for a month now and going on for two because I forgot to call her and tell her I went to the mall. She said I didn't forget and i just did something I didnt want her to know. I have never done anything in my life that has made her lose trust in me. When i get home she says if i have too much homework then i dont need to do chores and i got piled high with homework last week and she yells at me for not getting chores done. Then she yelled at me for doing my chores before homework. Stupid Stupid stuff like that. To add on to that she is an alcoholic and gets drunk pretty much every night and so i am scared to stand up to her. Really, really scared to. My sisters friends stopped coming to our house because of her and i just dont know what to do. i want to move to my dad's but i am to freaked out to tell her.
2006-12-03 07:45:46 · 8 answers · asked by Just wonderin' 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and my dad lives about 1800 miles away.
2006-12-03 08:36:58 · update #1
Your mom needed help. She's alcoholic, you said it yourself. You didn't tell up to what extent of abuse she's doing to you and your sisters. You have to inform your father so they can sort things out. You have to be brave before it goes to worst. You will not be able to deal with it later until it will cause u n ur sisters some psychological effect. Act now.
2006-12-03 08:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom's alcoholism is the problem, not you. Find an Ala teen meeting and start going. The only thing you can do is follow the rules, even though she seems to be changing them on you all the time. She can't keep track of her own stuff, so you have to keep track of yours. My ex kept doing the same things to my son until he didn't know which way to turn. As long as your grades are good and your chores are done that's all you should worry about. It might be safest to move to your dad's first and then tell her and when you do tell her why in detail. Her drinking has become too much for you to deal with.
2006-12-03 15:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it is time to turn to your dad. There really is no reason that you should have to live with an alcoholic. I am sure your mom loves you it is just that it all gets distorted when she drinks. And really why should you have to deal with her problems when you are apparently old enough to recognize them. If she is drinking heavily, then she can't possibly be thinking of your best interest all of the time. If I were you, I would definitely talk this out with your dad. there has to be some sort of compromise. I wish you luck!!! Remember,alcoholism and addiction usually run in the family so be careful of what you put into your system.....you don't want to end up trapped like she is!!!
2006-12-03 16:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun you may just have to bite the bullet and tell her you dont want to live with her. you dont have to tell your mum by yourself get a trusted friend a school counceller you have to tell someone and its not narking because its putting your wellbeing at risk. what she is doing to you is wrong.
she may not no how to deal with you growing up and that is why she is yelling all the time trying to make you fell worthless and nothing that you do is right well maybe not intentially but i no that is how you would be feeling.
you can do things right you sound like your head is screwed on the right way girl so just try and get some help its not going to get easier and some time at your dads may show her that what she is doing isnt right and make your mother daughter relationship a lot better.
2006-12-03 16:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by griner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not deserve this. If you feel your dad's place is a better, more healthly place, then go! It sounds like your mother needs a reality check. If she's going down, don't let her pull you down with her. You are just going to have to work up the nerve to tell your mom. I would let your dad know first, so maybe he can help out the situation, a little. Remeber your mom's problems are hers not yours. Be strong and good luck.
2006-12-03 15:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by pilljills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I have never done anything in my life that has made her lose trust in me. " Yes you did, you went to the mall and didn't tell her where you would be. If yu want to move in with your dad then you are going to have to "bite the bullet" and tell your mother, but tell your father first and see if he can be there when you tell your mom. Keep in mind that your father's house has rules as well that you will have to comply with. Or you can have yourself emancipated, then you will have to get a job, and pay ALL of your own expenses because your parents will no longer be responsible for your needs...You have choices, make them.
2006-12-03 15:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call your dad maybe he will tell her
2006-12-03 15:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet your father and tell him all about your feelings.
2006-12-03 15:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by wispercall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋