My boyfriend and I really love each other but I don't want to risk pregnancy so when we do have sex we use a condom.Well for some reason after sex or oral he smears some of his semen on his fingers and starts fingering me.I told him that I don't like him doing that because I could get pregnant and then he gets all insulted that I don't want to have HIS BABY.We're both in our early 20's and still in college so I believe it's not time for us to have a child especially since we're not married.He told me that I'm his woman and as his woman he can do with me any way that he wants.There have been other times after sex when he has peed on all over my body saying that he's "MARKING" me as his property and he wants other men to know that I'm his.Is he crazy or is this typical of all men?Even when he took my virginity he pushed inside me really slow even though he knew I was in pain. He told me that he wanted me to remember who was my first and only.This is also my first sexual relationship.
2006-12-03 07:43:49 · 33 answers · asked by Britney S 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Well, if you were my sister we'd set him on a barbwire fence and threaten to drag him the length of it. He is nothing but a f**** animal and you are just his "meat" and yes, he's putting his bodily fluids on you as an act of dominance. Somewhere there are sheep who are glad he found you. Lose him! No. all men don't act like that, but those that do should be castrated as they obviously have a hormone imbalance (or maybe a few extra chromosones or something) and need to be culled from the breeding population.
2006-12-03 07:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do you ever watch those Monday night movies where the woman is living in the trailer park with 5 kids under 10 years? She's got a broken collar bone and black eye and the husband is always out three or four nights a week "working" (when in truth he's out fooling around with the 17 year old grocery clerk from the grocery store or stealing cars) and when he's home he's drunk and beating on her? And they are always short on cash 'cause he can't get a full time job and she either has to work three minimum pay jobs to support him or collect welfare?
You know what I'm talking about......stay with him & this could very well be your future.
2006-12-03 07:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl, that's insane!!! From an outsider looking in, LEAVE and GET out while you can. that is NOT normal. that sounds extremely possessive and controlling and that will escalate into something abusive 99 percent of the time. Open your eyes, have you not seen the crazy serial rapists on tv and that is always how they act!! No, all guys don't do that, that is completely abnormal, and I would GET out now!!! No Im not exaggerating. That is bizarre and that is not love. PLEASE listen to me; been there before. Please tell someone else and get a second opinion if you don't believe me. Everyone else will say the same thing. good luck
2006-12-03 07:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this is a joke, it's absolutely ******* hilarious. If it's not, it's potentially ******* tragic! Get him to stop, no ******* joke, he's being an immature hateful parasite! He wants you to get in trouble. If he's marking you, you might interest him to have sex withsomeone's cat, or *****.
BUT, then again, he's probably looking to have unprotected sex with you, in which case you might consider going on the pill, he probably knows that there's no substitute for raw sex, but he's probably too chicken **** to tell it to your face. I suggest at least changing condoms to one of those new Trojans with the enlarged tips, the name escapes me. They're ribbed inside and out and they're thinner. They're more comfortable since they have an enlarged tip for the head and they're not tight, so they do allow for a better looser fit thus allowing more blood into the penis.
Make sure you discuss these options with him, if he absolutely refuses to at least stop fignering you with *** then dump him and consider putting a restraining order on him if he doesn't leave you alone. Then again, why aren't you dating a real man, huh? Stop dating boy-men you evil Amreeekan woman, there are plenty of hot evil men who won't get you pregnant 'cause you're in college. Like me! ;)
Seriously, there are two sides to every story, except his side can get you knocked-up. He probably just want to know if you'll marry him and be his, except his way of showing it is absolutely aweful.
2006-12-04 06:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Michal A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he sounds controlling. if my boyfriend peed on me that would be the last time we had sex. i am on birth control so we dont use a condom anymore, but if i wasnt on bc and he did that i would freak out too. he has no right to do that, and i mean NO right! so what if hes the man in the relationship? relationships should have an equal amount of authority and definitely a lot of respect for eachother. he needs to take your needs and wants into account not just his. and you're absolutely right, you're too young for children. and if he wants a baby, tell him he can take care of it when its born because he wanted it. tell him how feel and dont hold back your feelings. Hope this helps! :D
2006-12-03 10:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa girl! This guy is totally manipulative! Sounds like a jerk! Is this how you deserve to be treated, NO!!!!!
You deserve kindness and dignity! Believe me, there ARE good guys out there that will treat you awesome! It's one thing if he's doing it and you both are liking it. But sounds like he's "making you" do things you don't want to. Get out of the relationship while you still can! Be careful, sounds like he could be a stalker, so tell him over the phone and be sure and tell some friends so they can make sure you're alright!
DUMP HIM!
2006-12-03 08:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by modules 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off not every guy does this. pretty much everything you said is of some sick twisted perv.
Second your in college. Finish college.
Third save the lovin for someone that will respect you and what you want.
DUMP THE GUY
Sorry you had the go through all of this for your first one. Find someone that respects you as a person first. A real man will wait.
2006-12-03 07:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a control freak. If anyone peed on me after sex I would let him/her near me again. He has no respect for you. All he is using you for is to have sex with you his way. Dump him and look for some body that has a brain.
2006-12-03 08:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by ><>JHF<>< 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really not know the answer to these questions? Jeez - pathetic. Peed all over you - he has problems. He knew you were in pain and he still continued on? Run, don't walk away from this guy. He can do with you what he wants - I feel pity for you.
2006-12-03 07:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anne B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like that. Your boyfriend should respect you, and from what he's done to you... he's really not. He a very dominant person. But if he really loves you, he should respect your feelings and stop doing things to you that makes you uncomfortable. And peeing on you to mark his territory, that is what dogs do... to me, he's a dog.
You need someone to treat you more like a princess.
2006-12-03 07:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by JenGen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋