He was sent to his room as a punishment and I went back to chek on him and he was up to his neck in covers. I thought he had a book with hi, but I took the blanket off and his penis was quite erect.
I talked with him (my husband is not the best at this sort of thing) and told him it was normal, but I don't want him masturbating. It is against our Christian religion.
What can I say or do? He was clearly embarrassed he was caught, but he is the type not to care and do it again, just for spite.
He has always been sexually precocious and he has never been sexually abused in any way.
2006-12-03 07:24:41 · 33 answers · asked by Mary K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The Bible says that iit is better that a man's seed be put into a prostitute than on the ground.
I don't remember where it's found, but I know it's there.
2006-12-03 07:56:40 · update #1
If he is doing it now, he won't stop just by telling him that is against your religion, force your husband to talk to him about this matter, he is a man and will do a better job than us mothers do,and in the last case, talk to your pastor to guide you in this situation, I know that men of God have most of the time the best answers to problems like yours....greetings.
2006-12-03 07:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by nirak 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
9 isn't too early for the intercourse communicate. it quite is relating to the perfect age. he's going to initiate noticing variations in his physique in the subsequent couple of years so it will be superb if he's familiar with what to assume. what's substantial is that the two you and his father take a seat down and consult from him approximately those subject concerns. i'm no longer a believer that purely the determine of the comparable intercourse could communicate intercourse with the youngster. someone could be comfortable discussing intercourse with any gender determine. i do no longer think in promoting this infantile worry which you will no longer consult from the different determine approximately intercourse. the two factors of view are powerful. you may communicate masturbation along with your son. tell him that it quite is a typical thank you to handle sexual emotions and desires. It basically could be performed privately. i think of the main severe element is letting him comprehend it quite is common, organic, and healthful. Too many adult males sense ashamed of the undeniable fact that they want or like masturbating. it quite is a few thing that desires to end. you additionally can bypass out and stumble on a competent e book made for infants around your son's age that discusses puberty and actual variations. enable him examine it when you have your communicate. you additionally can print off suggestions from on line and supply it to him. -Connor
2016-10-17 15:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you found this in the Bible but there is nothing against masturbation in said book. Your son is more than likely going through the early stages of puberty or what is known as precocious puberty. You are giving him the wrong signals, what he is doing is perfectly natural. If you are not careful you may end up giving him the wrong ideas about himself and sex.
2006-12-03 08:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by stargazer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do nothing about it, the more you try the more he will rebell. he will do it anyway no matter what you say, if you push him too hard it can cause serious phyke. problems in the future, just explain to him what he is doing is normal (regaurdless of your religion) but to keep it private... not with friends or anything like that, he is a normal growing boy. i suggest you buy a very good virus protection program on your computer cause once again he will look at porn regaurdless of what you or anyone else says. just support him in anything he does, just think, masterbation helps keep abstinance, and i belive that is a bit more important than masturbating to release stress and to feel good, heck your husband does it, if his penis works.
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2006-12-03 07:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by popeye 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's fine, it really is. My husband has been a christain his entire life and he started masterbating at a reall young age. It's normal, it's just that your son got caught. he'll keep doing it, but he'll just get better at hiding it from you. I know this isn't what you want to hear but its the truth. As long as you teach him that sex is for marriage only and raise him with your values the best you can i'm sure he'll be just fine. My husband made it until marriage and he was in the military for over 2 years prior that that, and if you ever met a military man you know thats rare. Have faith, trust your son and keep teaching him your values and what you expect from him.
2006-12-03 07:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lena 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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Your son is at age of exploration. Unless you want your son to grow up with sexual problems you might want to tread lightly. Telling him not to and putting the fear of God into him he might end up like the dude from Red Dragon haveing idienty issues. The best thing to do is to find out where he learned about it and teach him about sex. If your religion is against masturbation, then let your husband decide on the right choice. Sexual explortation for him is perfectly normal. You don't need him on his wedding night being afraid of his own genitals.
2006-12-03 07:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie,despite the fact that you may not approve of it.Everyone does it,it is normal as you stated.Would you rather,he be engaging in intercourse especially at his age,than to simply masturbate?There is nothing wrong with that.It is better for him to explore his body,learn about his body,than to allow someone else to explore it and him possibly contract an std,or even get a young girl pregnant.I honestly,think that you should not punish him.I understand you may not believe the way he does,but it isnt wrong and does not deserve a punishment.He will rebel,and maybe even engage in some form of sexual activity with some random girl who you do not know what she has.If you teach him it is wrong,it is only going to highten his desire for this.He is 9,he more than likely doesnt understand what he is doing yet,but just that it feels good to him.You making a big deal out of it is only going to humiliate him.You should worry more about what your son is doing outside your home,what activities he is engaging in,if he has engaged in intercourse,etc rather than him simply masturbating.Allow him to have his privacy,and learn about his body.IF he is sexually promiscuous in your opinion,you stated that,not i then he is engaging in something other than masturbation.Get a grip hun,it isnt uncommon,and he is simply learning about his body.Allow him to and dont make him ashamed of his body,it was given to him it is his.Good luck hun,and have a good night.
2006-12-03 13:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Genesis 38:8-10 (this is the verse some Christians take as pertaining to masturbating)
"Then Judah said to Onan, "Lie with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to produce offspring for your brother." But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. What he did was wicked in the LORD's sight; so he put him to death also."
It was considered his duty to produce offspring for his brother. He refused. It would seem that this then is the sin, not the masturbating itself, if that is what he did. The verses could potentially be taken with other meaning as well. Read and decide for yourself.
Personally, though I am a Christian, I do not believe masturbation is wrong. Indeed, it can help relieve natural tensions and prevent sin. Consider this carefully before punishing him for it. You might take the opportunity to talk to him about other things pertaining here as well--he has obviously discovered some things already.
2006-12-03 09:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Masturbation is normal. A 9 year old wants to start exploring his body. Would any seed really be spilt? He may be sexually precocious, but he's only 9 and he probably hasn't started producing sperm yet. Just leave him be.
2006-12-03 09:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by mixterrr 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am a christian and I do not believe that masturbating is wrong. He is just curious about what's going on down there. Dr. James Dobson has a great Christian book called "Preparing for Adolescence". This book has a section on sexual behavior. Ask your local Christian book store if they have a copy...if not, ask them to order it. Although he is only 9...now is the time to talk to him if he's already experimenting. Don't punish him for something he does not understand.
2006-12-03 07:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
So what you saying your gonna get him a prostitute. Don't make the feel so guilty for masturbating. The spilling of the seed can't be true because even if you don't masturbate you can still have wet dreams and spill their "seed". Give him some privacy for crying out loud. I can't imagine how embarrassed he must be. He's going to be talking about this to a therapist one day.
2006-12-03 08:10:40 · answer #11 · answered by HOVO 3 · 13⤊ 1⤋