have you gone through bad times and are still together? how have you got through them?
2006-12-03 07:16:39 · 24 answers · asked by english_latina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think anything in life you have to go through the bad times to appreciate the good times!!! You learn lessons through your experiences and some are going to be bad... especially in marriage... but thats what makes you and your other stronger!
2006-12-03 07:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by BrookieB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY marriage will go through rocky times. It's just a fact of life. The key to keeping it together is communication. YOU HAVE TO COMMUNICATE! One person can't storm out of the room or not let the other one talk. You also have to give and take. Don't deny each other either, and I don't mean just sex. Cuddle with each other, SHOW each other how much you love each other. Don't hold grudges, forget about your last fight. NEVER bring up past fights. Treat each other with respect. I've learned alot through our bad times. It definitely has made me stronger. We've been married for 17 years now, wow, what a ride. We've had good, bad, happy, sad, exciting, boring times all wrapped into one. OH gosh, I could write a book. Just LOVE each other, and NEVER, EVER say the word "Divorce" in a fight. I'll write more if you wish............
2006-12-03 07:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in live in general, we have to go through bad times to learn lessons and marriage is no different. My wife and I seperated for a month last year because I had gotten my priorities messed up and put myself first, and was letting a sexual addiction control me, but now, after marriage counceling and counceling to help me overcome my addiction, we are doing alot better, and our marriage is stronger than ever.
Divorce I think is not the answer, Marriage isn't easy, you need to work hard at it, and if there are issues that arise in a marriage, go through marriage counceling, it will help if you go into in open minded and listen and incororate what you learn in the sessions.
2006-12-03 07:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely, it helps us deal with life. My husband and I went through the same thing. We went through hell and even drew up the papers, but at the last minute we changed our minds and sat up until 3 am just talking and being honest with each other. We learned to trust each other and to rely on each other again. We are now trucking together and learning new things about each other every day. We have fallen back in love again. It is a steady progression where it was a down hill slide before. It just keeps getting better and better every day. It can happen to you as well. Learn to trust and love each other again.
Put the past behind you and move on. Learn how to deal with each others wants and needs, set priority and have goals for your selves.
2006-12-03 07:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by BJ B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I think now days, people think marriage is supposed to be fun & games and when something goes wrong, -Hey! Let's go get divorced. That's not right. Marriage is for good times and BAD! Unconditional love is something people rarely have for their significant other. I know, I've been with my hubby since I was 15. We married when I was 17 and we've have been throught too much. I still wonder if we're going to "make it". I'm 25 and nothing is never for sure. But one thing is that I'm going to try and do my best to keep us together.
2006-12-03 07:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once asked my nan how she stayed with my cantancerous papa for so long --63 years. And she said, "never fall out of love at the same time". i think the secret is to let your charactor and ethics carry you when you think you can't hold on anymore. I have been through times that I thought my marriage would not survive. And our relationship has changed, it's stronger, he's even more of my best friend and I have learned alot about how complicated humans are. Good luck.
2006-12-03 07:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage is great even though we spent most of the honeymoon screaming at each other!! No relationship is perfect and if you can accept that you are always going to argue sometimes then you can really learn to love each other. How boring would it be being with someone that always agreed with you, you need your partner to challenge you and stimulate you. Yes sometimes things get hard but if you can still make each other smile at the end of it the you really know you've got something worth fighting for!
2006-12-03 07:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by shesaclevergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems like when people are fighting life's problems together instead of fighting each other or trying to fight life's problems separately.
That's what makes it good I think. When people pull together fo reach other. Then when life problems happen, no matter how bad, you support each other and deal with it the best you can. The lessons learned from doing that help build trust and confidence so the other future problems are maybe easier.
"Troubles shared are troubles cut in half." from somewhere, i forgot
2006-12-03 07:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you have to go through the bad times honey and learn your lesson. I think it makes the marriage stronger.
2006-12-06 12:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. All marriages go through the roughest patches to both of there lives. Its a fact because they are both different to one another. I have to say I am in that situation right now. Its hard especially if your wife is controlling and way too independent. Its really hard.
2006-12-03 16:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋