i give gift first out of generosity, so you should give a gift back on your own with out me telling u?

Question

we started dating in septmeber
i gave my boyfrined a little gift
(an avon Body wash) earlier like in october.
Now its christmas, and weve been together 3 months.
so for christmas im just giving him a card NO GIFT, CUZ IM WASTING TIME DOING THAT. since he dint return the genorosity by giving me back a gift, or a little something something.
he hasnt bought me anything yet, and on top of that i have 1 more week of school left to see him.Am i right to give him just a card for christmas?he works and has a job and i live with parents and he says hes generous.Since i bought him stuff first, that means that he should have atleast returned the gratitude i gave him , and bought me something.Im not gonna remind him anything cuz that would look like im a gold digger.is he being cheap or what???i thought that if you be nice and givea boyfrined somehting u bought for them , they then buy u something back in return (thats how my ex was last year for x-mas first, and he bougt stuf WHAT TO DO

i dont wanna tell him anything to look like im a gold digger. or to feel stupid or make him feel stupid,
he's not gona see me for a month. i think that he sould give me something cuz i wasted my money and thought giving him something.

I hate cheap people.

Would i look even tackyer giving him just a christmas card.?

I think that he shouldnt get anyting for being a cheap ***.

But maybe he forgot, cuz i just gave him a little body wash ting from avon.
he probably dint think it was anytning

He is not even buying me anyting to show that he cares or so.

i dont need anyting cuz my parents give me every ting but just to show that he appreciates me he should give me something.

Answer 1

You said you gave him a gift out of generosity...but if you expect something in return then it wasnt really generous. If you want to buy him something ...just buy it. If you dont..then dont.

Or... you can ask him if he plans on exchanging gifts this Christmas. A card is also fine if you are happy with that.

Answer 2

Wow. Gift giving should be something from the heart, and not something to do with an expectation of a returned present. I give gifts because it's my way of showing people how I feel, regardless if it's a holiday or not. However, there have been times that I've been broke and unable to give a gift, and someone giving me a gift made me feel bad because I couldn't reciprocate.
I think you need to grow up. If you want a relationship based on who gives what, and cheapen it to a monetary level, then by all means, tell him you want gifts, or find yourself a sugar daddy. Otherwise, if you think it's a sign he's not all that in to you, and you are feeling insecure, talk about it with him.
Don't play games.

Answer 3

If you plan to give to receive, then don't give. If you are giving because you care about someone or saw something that made you think about someone or the like, then by all means, give.

If you feel a card is good for your boyfriend, then do that. Does he take you out? Do you split everything?

You could also nonchalantly ask: Do you want to exchange gifts this Christmas? That could tell you a whole lot.

But in the end, I also don't want you always giving, giving, giving if it means you'll be taken advantage of.

Answer 4

Sounds like this should not be a long term relationship for you, too much bitterness. Move on. Go to a Christmas party and find someone new to hang with.

Answer 5

You give a gift because you want to, not because you expect something in return. Your approach is entirely wrong. Give him a card, tell him how much you care for him, and let it go. If he cares for you, you'll know it soon enough. If he doesn't, move on.

Answer 6

maybe it is time to find someone who is more your type

Answer 7

I think you should confront him and ask him why he never buys you presents!You shouldn't have to buy anything for him if he isn't going to buy anything for you.