I have got to the point where my I don't trust her anymore. Almost every time time she uses the internet she clears the history files before she logs off, when she gets a call on her cellphone she will frequently go into another room and shut the door behind her, she never used to do either of those things. And in recent months she is spending more and more time out of the house. I know she does not love me, we no longer have sex, but she said she cares and will never leave me........but I don't believe her.
2006-12-03 06:47:39 · 22 answers · asked by Very happily married. 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is the point of being with her if she doesn't love you ?
I would say yes..she is probably cheating on you...She probably wants to keep you in her life and have another relationship on the side ... that is why she said that she cares for you and would never leave you. ( she can' t have the best of both worlds)
If she doesn't love you, there is nothing you can do to make her love you again. Having a relationship with no love or intimacy is pointless and a waste of time. Do your self a favour and leave. You will be much happier in the future and maybe find someone that appreciates you.
Good Luck
2006-12-03 14:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she cheating - yes, she probably is. Almost certainly. How much do you want to find out? You can ask her - she may tell you she is, but from the sound of your relationship (not too much open communication) she will deny it no matter what. Still, I think she deserves the chance.
You can hire a detective too. However, before you ask or hire, you need to ask yourself how you'll react depending on what you learn. Don't open the door until you know how you'll pass through it.
Good luck, man, sounds like you have a rough year ahead of you.
2006-12-03 15:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hound Dawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matt, I thought you all were divorcing??? WHY would you stay with someone just for companionship? and not satisfactory companionship at that ? Keeping this relationship going is like doing CPR on a long-dead cat!!!
Life is too short for this sort of thing... make a clean break of it, dear and be done with it. If you keep letting her jab and twist the knife around like this, you are going to be even more emotionally and mentally jacked up. Clean cuts heal the easiest... move her out and move on... a new, hopefully healthy, relationship is that much closer by letting this one go.
2006-12-03 16:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YYYYYEEEEEEESSSSSSSS...She is on these online dating pages and meeting other people....When someone has to go into another room and never home, she is cheating..Her actions are giving you the answer and you don't want to realize what she is doing...Sit her down and talk to her...maybe its something she doesn't like or the spark in your marriage needs to be rekindled....COMMUNICATION is the key....
There are a lot of people who are married and flirt and meet people on the internet and get hooked on it and think its not cheating....First, it starts out as fun, then you talk on the phone, then you meet....Then the cheating really happens at the nearest Hotel/Motel.....OPEN YOUR EYES, THE SIGNS ARE THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-03 15:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont sit and speak you will never know. Me myself I always clear and hide even when I speak to old classmate or the sites I have visited even it is only me using my PC and nobody else have access to that is just my way. If she cares she would not cheated. So as it clear for you your relationship isnt working very well better find out whats next!
2006-12-03 15:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by ido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude-
Here's the clean break recipe:
1) Start transfering small amounts of funds out of your joint account to your own persomal account
2) Wait until you have enought to get your own place or a security blanket
3) Stay home sick from work and while she's at work, move out.
She won't spill. You won't ask. You're already living seperate lives...why bother?
2006-12-03 15:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by preciouspinkla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there i no need for her to go into another room just to take a call your her husband she shouldn't need to hide anything from you, specially erasing the history files on the internet. she is definately hiding something and it totally sounds like cheating. she isn't worth your time you can do better.
2006-12-03 15:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by bballbabe725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i heard that before too.
but i ALWAYS clear the history out of my computer, even my own when no one else can go on it. and if i'm on the phone and don't want him to hear, i wait until he is gone to answer it. not that i'm hiding anything but there are parts of my life that have nothing to do with him.
if you think she's cheating, leave her. don't wait for her to leave you. trust me.
2006-12-03 15:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the first reaction is the correct one. I think she is cheating.
If you are not happy that is reason enough to leave. We only have one life to live. I do not know why she would cheat on you. You are a really good looking guy. dixieangel9122@yahoo.com. Wink wink
2006-12-03 15:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by jessica h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your first clue? Get a lawyer. Don't wait for incontrovertible proof. Why do you want to be with a woman that doesn't want you? Hopefully you have no children. Good luck.
2006-12-03 14:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋