It's fine for me to be attached to your parents but not to the extreme when you feel whatever they do is right. Sometimes I find him to be heartless because his ex-girlfriend used to sacrifice so much for him but due to a minor mistake she did, his parents ask him to leave her and he did. I don't want to be the next victim.
2006-12-03 06:45:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also dislike the fact that his siblings play more important role than I do. He allows his siblings to push me around and don't see any fault in them. In fact, he said that I should give in because I am older than them, which is like only two years younger and they are not small kids!
2006-12-03 06:46:46 · update #1
It's not like I want him to put me first but sometimes his family is being disrespectful to me and he thinks they have the right to do that!
2006-12-03 07:02:22 · update #2
this is how my ex was. his entire family did no wrong, and he never stood up for me. now i have the last laugh. they are all worthless, for lack of a better word. giving up custody of your kids because you don't want to pay child support, being unemployed for extended periods of time and mooching off your boyfriend, stealing stuff from walmart when you can clearly afford it...i'm glad i'm rid of them.
2006-12-03 07:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you ought to either get out of this marriage, or accept the fact that your husband has no balls, and his mom(has brass ovaries) and family does as well. A man should put his wife as the person he should attempt to please first, assuming all things equal, which of course they never are. If you like being down there somewhere around the goldfish in his priorities, then stay. If you think this marriage has a chance to survive, get into a few sessions of counseling,and find out why he has so little respect for you and your wishes, (assuming those wishes aren't stupid, outlandish or whatever.....) If after a few sessions, you are still not his priority, you might indeed wish to be his next victim, and get the hell out.... You have three options here......My husband is number one, and I am number one with him.... If it weren't that way, each of us would have left long ago...
2006-12-03 10:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were his wife I would say he's a jerk. Men should put their wives first, before mommy. But you are just the girlfriend. I think it's smart to listen to your parents about the person you're dating. They know you better than anyone. Maybe you shouldn't be so sensitive. Stand up for yourself instead of going to him "your sister's picking on me!" Maybe that's why they test you or they're probably just playing around trying to get you to loosen up b/c you're coming off very insecure. Until he decides you are worth making his wife, he won't feel the need to alienate his family for your sake. Sorry sweetie, hope it works though.
2006-12-03 07:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by BrutalBaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Blood is thicker than water!!! Girlfriends/boyfriends come & go, so do husbands & wives, but family is forever. If you don't like his tight family or the fact that he is unable to make a decision for himself without a commitee, leave!!!!
2006-12-03 06:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of this is normal. The pushing around stuff sounds sick. Talk to your BF and discuss your concerns. Don't expect him to chose you over family. But ask for reasonable needs and wants.
2006-12-03 06:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seriously needs to rearange his list of priorities, because for me, my wife is at the top of my list, then my kids, my job, then my family, friends, then myself.
I think people and men more more importantly need to put their wives/gf's at the top of their list of priorities, because they need to realize that if they married this person, or are going to marry this person, that they need to be the most important person in their lives.
To me, my brother's and my parents are very important to me, but my wife and kids come before they do.
2006-12-03 06:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, I'm going through the same thing!!! But he's already my ex, unfortunatly. Yeah, it truly sucks when your ex allows his family to push you around, and it kinda shows he may be more into spending time with his family then with you!!! Break up with him before he breaks up with you, thats ALL I have to say!!! I'm in the 7th grade, and this problem is already starting!!!
2006-12-03 06:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to stand up on your own 2 feet!
Grow up first!
He's not your husband. Husbands are supoose to make their wives come first. Family is important. Family will always be there, not all gf/or b/f will.
2006-12-03 07:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who not only put his children first, not that at times they needed to be but, there were times, plans were made that i was not even a consideration. Worst than that, he put his ex-wife ahead of me. That is why he is gone. I done a lot for him and finally after she came to my door demanding i get him out of bed so she could have a verbal confrontation with him, i threatened to have her arrested for trespassing, he did not like that but, i told him, no one comes to my house, raising hell like that. Told him i could not live like that and we are done. Sounds like you should be too Life is to short to be involved with someone so insensitive.. My boyfriend wanted the best of both worlds, not in my world it is not happening.
2006-12-03 07:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are apparently in the bottom of his priority list and this will always be the case however serious your relationship may be in the future.
2006-12-03 06:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋